Sorry Ryna but yeah. It's one thing to feel a bit disappointed/puzzled that your friend didn't think to bring a gift, but friends don't owe tribute - and the passive-aggressive fake question after is definitely what BP likes to call a [jerk] move. A transactional attitude to friendship ain't great and now you've communicated to your friend that she owed you payment for being included. I'd say you have a bit of thinking to do about that.

You are clearly just a kid, but yes, You were absolutely the AH. What you did to Sand was mean and unnecessary and there was nothing about the way you treated her that suggests your last sentence resembles the truth.

Yeah, you are, actually, and I hope the negativity and down votes speak to that for you. It's sad the first thing you noticed was your friend was empty handed, not being excited that she came and accepted your invite. Inviting someone to a birthday party does not obligate them to give you a damn thing. You don't invite friends for their gifts, you invite them for their company and to spend a special day with you. Then you had the nerve to pull that little backhanded passive aggressive BS talking to another friend about their gift, not even realizing you're insulting THAT friend by have to ask what they gave you, as if it wasn't good or memorable enough to remember. "Sand's" finances are also none of your damn business. I don't care if she's a millionaire, she didn't owe you anything. "The next day at school" makes me think this is teenage drama so hopefully some of the things you'll read in the comments help you understand that no, how you're acting and feel aren't cool.

“I don’t wanna act like a spoiled brat”. Too late Ryna.

You aren't entitled to gifts. I have only rarely given birthday presents to adult friends. Usually you go out to eat or for pints, if it's a milestone birthday maybe do something bigger, but apart from food and drink, no one in my friends groups in N America and the UK does gifts for friends regularly.

My god are you a toddler??? Why would this girl or anyone want to be friends with you. Your parents should be ashamed of the way they have raised you. Do better!!! You are definitely TA!

So, you threw a party expecting those invited to give gifts. That's not how invitations work. You invite, you pay - and expect nothing from your guests. That doesn't speak well of you, especially with your faked curiosity the next time you saw Sand. Step back and think about why you wanted the party in the first place. Did you truly want to spend time with your friends, or was it just a way to get something out of them? YTA, even if you are just a kid.

OP. Look, I get it. When you invite people to a birthday party, the respectable thing to do is not come empty handed. With that being said, some people just suck at gift giving, while others (like me - it's my "love language.") It is something I enjoy! But I digress and do have questions. Has Sand given you gifts for your birthday/Christmas/holidays/etc., before? Or did you just become "good friends?" I mean it is kind of weird to be invited to a birthday party and not even bring a card, but you may not know the entire story. Sand may look like she could afford a trinket but looks can be deceiving. I'm going to give you a YTA for trying to play it off with a snarky remark to her.

"I just say “wowww” in a joking tone because I’m a nice person and I don’t wanna act like a spoiled brat" this is not "nice" behavior. This is rude, spoiled brat behavior. Giving gifts isn't something that should ever be viewed as necessary. You may think she "can afford a token of appreciation" (seriously that's not what a birthday gift is) but you have no idea whether that's just your impression of her life (happens a lot). If someone who comes to your birthday party gives you 2 gifts one year and 1 the next are you going to go Dudley Dursley on them? Birthday parties are expensive. They're so the birthday person can spend time with people they care about. Not so that person can get as many gifts as possible. If I could talk to your friends I'd tell them to go to the dollar store next time and find something there, make it a group activity.

Somewhere along the way I hope someone tells this entitled little priss that gifts are OPTIONAL.

When you are invited to a party, you bring a gift. Can be small and inexpensive, but in my opinion it's rude to show up empty handed. Unless they tell beforehand they don't expect a gift