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These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion
Recently, Twitter user Ryanne quoted a TikTok, saying “men never ask for help.” This bold statement immediately started a heated discussion, and some of its participants began looking for the author of the message.
People eventually came to an agreement that it was Lauren, aka Cardy Couture Boutique. She has posted numerous videos, sharing advice on safety from her dad, a former member of the Secret Service.
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This tweet started a heated discussion on women safety
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So to get more information, its participants began looking for the TikTok that inspired it
@cardy_couture_boutiqueYour Welcome #BiggerIsBetter#DontSweatIt#inspirational#ShowerWithMoxie#virAl#fyp#marchmadness#momtok#qoutes#poster♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton
Women definitely need to stay alert. A sexual assaulter can be any kind of person. These words shouldn’t make everyone scared of everyone else; rather, they just mean that there isn’t one specific type who commits such kinds of crimes.
At least that is what Dr. Samuel D. Smithyman, a US clinical psychologist, learned when he anonymously interviewed 50 men back in the 1970s who had confessed to having raped someone.
These men had diverse backgrounds and social statuses as well as different personalities and mentalities. What really surprised Smithyman was how unconcerned they sounded when talking about such a criminal offense.
The motives that push a person to rape someone vary and are difficult to quantify. However, studies show that rapists have some common characteristics, including a lack of empathy, narcissism, and feelings of hostility towards women.
They came to an agreement that it belongs to Lauren, aka Cardy Couture Boutique
And she has a whole series dedicated to this important topic
The videos have a combined view count of nearly 2 million
@cardy_couture_boutiqueYou asked I delivered #RayBanElevatorDance #PlantersTrickShot #BiggerIsBetter #DontSweatIt #inspirational#viral#fypdong♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton
Lauren’s dad really knows what he’s talking about. Special Agents are men and women of the highest caliber, performing critical protective and investigative assignments. During their careers, Special Agents may be assigned to multiple duty stations throughout the United States and abroad with responsibilities that include: protecting various protectees, conducting criminal investigations pertaining to financial obligations of the United States, and planning and implementing security designs for National Special Security Events.
And Lauren believes her dad’s advice have already saved her life
@cardy_couture_boutiqueWill explain the last one in another video#FindYourCore#RayBanElevatorDance #GodzillaVsKongRoar #inspirationalquotes#SourPatchPrankFund#fyp#viral♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton
Some men have been questioning the application of these tips
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While women have been sharing stories, proving they can be more valuable than they seem at first
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What do you think ?
Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I hate this post with every fiber of my body. It is so wrong that women have to live in fear like this. It's so wrong that there are such evil men in this world. It's just so much wrong, and so much pain, and so much fear. I hate it all. And, as a white man in the US, I am sorry that women have to live in fear. I am sorry that so many men are out there attacking women. I am sorry that you all have to go through this on a daily basis. I'm sorry.
StrawberryParfait 3 years ago
Nice to see that someone gets it. Women did not create this type of world, but we do have to survive in it.
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N G 3 years ago
As with so many things, condensing advice into headlines means important context and nuance is lost. If a man has the opportunity to ask another man for help, he should, but if the help required is clearly genuine (someone is bleeding, or there is a fire) that shouldn't stop him asking a woman for help if she's the only other person available - ask her to use her phone to call EMS. If he specifically targets a woman to ask for help, it's a red flag.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Just ask from a safe distance, e.g., 4-5 meteres, "Excuse me? I need ..... Can you please help me?" and do not approach the other person. Any other situation, I was taught, is potential danger. By my dad, btw.
Viviane 3 years ago
When my indoor cat took off, I did ask some kids playing outside if they had seen her (kids are more likely to notice animals than adults are). However, I did not ask for help looking for her -- that would be irresponsible. I found my cat (thanks, kids).
Load More Replies... Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I hate this post with every fiber of my body. It is so wrong that women have to live in fear like this. It's so wrong that there are such evil men in this world. It's just so much wrong, and so much pain, and so much fear. I hate it all. And, as a white man in the US, I am sorry that women have to live in fear. I am sorry that so many men are out there attacking women. I am sorry that you all have to go through this on a daily basis. I'm sorry.
StrawberryParfait 3 years ago
Nice to see that someone gets it. Women did not create this type of world, but we do have to survive in it.
Load More Replies... N G 3 years ago
As with so many things, condensing advice into headlines means important context and nuance is lost. If a man has the opportunity to ask another man for help, he should, but if the help required is clearly genuine (someone is bleeding, or there is a fire) that shouldn't stop him asking a woman for help if she's the only other person available - ask her to use her phone to call EMS. If he specifically targets a woman to ask for help, it's a red flag.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Just ask from a safe distance, e.g., 4-5 meteres, "Excuse me? I need ..... Can you please help me?" and do not approach the other person. Any other situation, I was taught, is potential danger. By my dad, btw.
Viviane 3 years ago
When my indoor cat took off, I did ask some kids playing outside if they had seen her (kids are more likely to notice animals than adults are). However, I did not ask for help looking for her -- that would be irresponsible. I found my cat (thanks, kids).
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