These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

Recently, Twitter user Ryanne quoted a TikTok, saying “men never ask for help.” This bold statement immediately started a heated discussion, and some of its participants began looking for the author of the message.

People eventually came to an agreement that it was Lauren, aka Cardy Couture Boutique. She has posted numerous videos, sharing advice on safety from her dad, a former member of the Secret Service.

This tweet started a heated discussion on women safety

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So to get more information, its participants began looking for the TikTok that inspired it

@cardy_couture_boutiqueYour Welcome #BiggerIsBetter #DontSweatIt #inspirational #ShowerWithMoxie #virAl #fyp #marchmadness #momtok #qoutes #poster ♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton

Women definitely need to stay alert. A sexual assaulter can be any kind of person. These words shouldn’t make everyone scared of everyone else; rather, they just mean that there isn’t one specific type who commits such kinds of crimes.

At least that is what Dr. Samuel D. Smithyman, a US clinical psychologist, learned when he anonymously interviewed 50 men back in the 1970s who had confessed to having raped someone.

These men had diverse backgrounds and social statuses as well as different personalities and mentalities. What really surprised Smithyman was how unconcerned they sounded when talking about such a criminal offense.

The motives that push a person to rape someone vary and are difficult to quantify. However, studies show that rapists have some common characteristics, including a lack of empathy, narcissism, and feelings of hostility towards women.

They came to an agreement that it belongs to Lauren, aka Cardy Couture Boutique

These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

And she has a whole series dedicated to this important topic

These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

The videos have a combined view count of nearly 2 million

@cardy_couture_boutiqueYou asked I delivered #RayBanElevatorDance #PlantersTrickShot #BiggerIsBetter #DontSweatIt #inspirational #viral #fypdong ♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton

Lauren’s dad really knows what he’s talking about. Special Agents are men and women of the highest caliber, performing critical protective and investigative assignments. During their careers, Special Agents may be assigned to multiple duty stations throughout the United States and abroad with responsibilities that include: protecting various protectees, conducting criminal investigations pertaining to financial obligations of the United States, and planning and implementing security designs for National Special Security Events.

These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

And Lauren believes her dad’s advice have already saved her life

@cardy_couture_boutiqueWill explain the last one in another video#FindYourCore #RayBanElevatorDance #GodzillaVsKongRoar #inspirationalquotes #SourPatchPrankFund #fyp #viral ♬ A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton

These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

Some men have been questioning the application of these tips

These Safety Tips From A Former Secret Service Agent Go Viral And Start An Important Discussion

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Rick Seiden 3 years ago

I hate this post with every fiber of my body. It is so wrong that women have to live in fear like this. It's so wrong that there are such evil men in this world. It's just so much wrong, and so much pain, and so much fear. I hate it all. And, as a white man in the US, I am sorry that women have to live in fear. I am sorry that so many men are out there attacking women. I am sorry that you all have to go through this on a daily basis. I'm sorry.

77points

StrawberryParfait 3 years ago

Nice to see that someone gets it. Women did not create this type of world, but we do have to survive in it.

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

I'm sorry you can't ask me for help without wondering if I will run screaming, or actually help.

13points

Natalie Kudryashova 3 years ago

It’s not just fear, it’s the sheer amount of energy it takes away from you to manage all the risks. It’s exhausting.

8points

Jane Alexander 3 years ago

Rick, I'm sorry that the 99% of guys who are decent have to live with what we fear from that vile 1%.

7points

Rick Seiden 3 years ago

Ivan asked what my race has to do with this post. I can't reply directly from his post because it has a negative rating, but I think it's a decent question. It's not white guilt, as someone said. It's because being a white male in the US means that I come from a position of privilege, and I don't see things the same way other people (who aren't white men) might see it. As someone pointed out, for example, I'm less afraid of the police. Because of my age and my race, I might seem less threatening to some women. Then again, I might seem more threatening to other women because of my age and race. So that's why I mentioned my race. (Unfortunately we're in a time in the US where race always has something to do with it.)

5points

Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

Thank you, Rick. Men need to speak up about this issue more often, if we are to solve it.

5points

Peter Vens 3 years ago

true that , I am ashamed of my gender . I apologise for them but it's not enough .

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Andrew Cohen 3 years ago

Rick, there are just as many abusive women. You don't have to be sorry for abusive men, just don't be one. Do what you can to help women AND MEN stuck in abusive situations. Try not to simp so hard.

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backatya 3 years ago

Quit being sorry like you're making things better. It's the real world and not some knight coming to the rescue world. Not all men are like this just the ones whose minds are screwed up. Not every woman has to be afraid just be aware like men should be too. Just because a person is a male doesn't mean they're safe. A lot of men get killed and some even protecting women. The post is just trying to get women to wake up to the real world and be smart about doing things.

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

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N G 3 years ago

As with so many things, condensing advice into headlines means important context and nuance is lost. If a man has the opportunity to ask another man for help, he should, but if the help required is clearly genuine (someone is bleeding, or there is a fire) that shouldn't stop him asking a woman for help if she's the only other person available - ask her to use her phone to call EMS. If he specifically targets a woman to ask for help, it's a red flag.

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Just ask from a safe distance, e.g., 4-5 meteres, "Excuse me? I need ..... Can you please help me?" and do not approach the other person. Any other situation, I was taught, is potential danger. By my dad, btw.

16points

Viviane 3 years ago

When my indoor cat took off, I did ask some kids playing outside if they had seen her (kids are more likely to notice animals than adults are). However, I did not ask for help looking for her -- that would be irresponsible. I found my cat (thanks, kids).

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Rick Seiden 3 years ago

77points

StrawberryParfait 3 years ago

Nice to see that someone gets it. Women did not create this type of world, but we do have to survive in it.

36points

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

I'm sorry you can't ask me for help without wondering if I will run screaming, or actually help.

13points

Natalie Kudryashova 3 years ago

It’s not just fear, it’s the sheer amount of energy it takes away from you to manage all the risks. It’s exhausting.

8points

Jane Alexander 3 years ago

Rick, I'm sorry that the 99% of guys who are decent have to live with what we fear from that vile 1%.

7points

Rick Seiden 3 years ago

5points

Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

Thank you, Rick. Men need to speak up about this issue more often, if we are to solve it.

5points

Peter Vens 3 years ago

true that , I am ashamed of my gender . I apologise for them but it's not enough .

0points

Andrew Cohen 3 years ago

Rick, there are just as many abusive women. You don't have to be sorry for abusive men, just don't be one. Do what you can to help women AND MEN stuck in abusive situations. Try not to simp so hard.

0points