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“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Dump him the first time he cheated

inevak1 , Vera Arsic Report

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157points

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ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago

Cheating is cheating period.

30points

WallflowersAreCool2 Report

#3

Treat everyone with respect. Friends, family, coworkers, doormen, waitstaff, hairdressers, etc. Everyone deserves dignity. Its seems a little thing, but its huge to those on the receiving end.

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150points

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Debbie 1 year ago

Treat the world around you with respect. Not just people, also little things like don't litter etc.

37points

Some people regret that they didn't embrace a healthier lifestyle earlier, and we were curious about what could help them move past these feelings.

"While some people may feel regret, many people can transform this into motivation to focus on the things that are important in life," Dr. Castel, from UCLA, explained to Bored Panda via email.

"This can take the form of nurturing relationships, and also developing new healthy habits at any age in life," he said.

#4

That it’s ok to go in to a skilled trade and not HAVE to go to college and wrack up thousands of dollars worth of debt.

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RabidChild 1 year ago

Skilled trades are always in demand.

45points

#5

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier You can talk back to your brain. Talk back to your bad thoughts and tell them they’re wrong. Not every bad thought is a reality. Also, bad days are okay. Bad day does not equal a bad life.

henryspofford , Nathan Dumlao Report

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134points

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Nea 1 year ago

I try doing this but does not help. Hope this works for others. Bad thoughts can consume us so completely.

38points

#6

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Stop pining over people and just ask them out as soon as you realize you like them.

If their answer is yes, then yay! If their answer is no, they you don’t waste a bunch of energy having a crush on them when it won’t go anywhere.

I finally followed that advice and it’s working out great.

thesheba , Rémi Walle Report

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118points

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Roe Rainrunner 1 year ago

Adding: When you're a woman, don't wait for the man to ask you first. They wanna feel wanted too and appreciate it :3

55points

We were also interested in what could help motivate someone to continue developing new habits even if they're not seeing the results they hoped for.

"While some habits may not immediately yield benefits, people may appreciate that the reinforcement will occur if it is discussed with others," Castel, the author of 'Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging,' said.

"Thus, having a social connection and talking about how to nurture healthy habits can be beneficial so that they become long-term programs of behavior, such as exercise, eating well, and being around the people that one cares about."

#7

"Do what you love" is b******t for most of us. Do something you like and that provides you with the conditions to do what you love on your free time.

vewvea Report

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Nea 1 year ago

This!

19points

#8

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier I wish I'd known earlier that I would be happier if I stopped needlessly judging people.

anon , Anthony Tran Report

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101points

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Mark Fuller 1 year ago

Interesting to hear that someone who recognises themselves as judgemental isn't necessarily happy...

30points

#9

If the shoes aren’t 100% comfortable in the store-leave them there.

zerozingzing Report

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AtMostTheFabulist Premium 1 year ago (edited)

Let me upvote this 100 times. I have at least a half a dozen pairs of shoes that weren't really comfortable in the store but I bought them anyway. Now I can't wear them.

18points

One thing that everyone needs to understand is that there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ life. No matter how skilled, resilient, resourceful, or lucky you might be, at one point or another you are going to make mistakes. And lots of them! They might be one-off behaviors or even full-fledged habits that you regret (not) doing.

But instead of agonizing over all of this, you must embrace this ‘imperfection.’ Yes, your life would have been better if you took better care of your mental health or stopped trying to please everyone in your social circle. However, you did the best that you could with the knowledge and tools that you had at the time. What matters now is that you learn from those mistakes, identify the habits and type of lifestyle you want, and put consistent effort to reach those goals.

#10

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Don't spend so much time thinking about what other people think of you (they care more about themselves than you). Spend more time discovering yourself and loving/accepting who you are instead of wasting time doing things to get their approval. That, and... When you thought that (whatever drama/comment/snarky remark etc) was about you, it wasn't really about you. It was about them.

missylo , Annie Spratt Report

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96points

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Susie Elle 1 year ago

I'd like to add to this that the perfect way of learning to love yourself for who you are is to have someone teach you to love yourself. And I mean profesionnaly; I always knew I should love myself for who I am but how the heck do you love the very thing you despise? Turns out there's actual tools/methods/approaches you can learn. Hating yourself is a habit you've grown accustomed to. You gotta unlearn hating yourself and actively learn to love yourself.

26points

#11

Don’t let compliments get to your head and don’t let insults get to your heart.

Trollstack Report

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CanadianDimes 1 year ago

On the flip side, learn to accept a genuine compliment (not talking about if someone is being creepy at you, but like 'you did great work' or 'you're really good at that'). Don't argue with the person giving the compliment about how it's not true. Even if you don't believe it, say 'thank you' and move on. I started doing that when I was younger and eventually came to believe the sincerity of a compliment when it was given. It had a big effect on my self-confidence!

27points

#12

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Don’t be so desperate for love and affection you find it in the absolute worst places. Wait your time until you’re old enough and don’t be like me and make a million mistakes you’ll regret on abusive men who never deserved the time of day.

tinstinabeenabins , Tyler Nix Report

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92points

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Azolane 1 year ago

Age has nothing to do with that. I had never been in an abusive relationship until I was 35. Abusers pick you up when you are at your most vulnerable, and this can happen anytime.

60points

Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., points out in a piece on Psychology Today that, practically speaking, there is no possible way for your past self to have known what you know now. The advice you so wish you could give your past self could still be incredibly useful to you now.

All it takes is acknowledging its usefulness and integrating it into your life. It takes a lot of maturity and humility to admit that, yes, you probably should have behaved differently. However, you would not be the person you are today if you had not made those mistakes in the past. And, if we’re being totally honest, it really is never too late to learn something new. We’re never ‘too old’ to live the life we truly want.

#13

Yah hey 18 yr old me:

You know how you are they only skinny one in the family? That is not because you are genetically programmed to stay in model shape. It is because you work out constantly because you love dance.

Yes you can now eat 3 Big Macs In a sitting and all the casseroles your mom makes with crisco by the cups. You might even be within the food pyramid of 1992 (it’s b******t!). But the minute you switch to college life, work out only a few hours a week at most, age....boom you are going to join the rest of the fam!

Learn how to eat while you are still skinny. Then learn some sports that you can do at 30 unlike ballet on point. Then learn to prioritize them.

Lovingly, overweight 44 yr old you.

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90points

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Maggie Stephenson 1 year ago

Always this kinda goes with me I always had the same figure until I got married than I jumped 10 punds than 20 than 30 than at 30 my weight got stuck and I dont eat as much as before I got married.

7points

#14

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Your parents are not always right, morally OR factually.

And sometimes, they are more concerned about their own reputation than your wellbeing.

Basically, your parents are only human.

difficultymedium , Monstera Report

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Mike Behr 1 year ago

I was waiting for "Don't pull grandpa's finger"

21points

#15

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Surround yourself with people that treat you well. Anyone else, whether they are family or friends, can be pushed away if they want to treat you like s**t. Life isn't about sticking around in unhealthy relationships, it is about cultivating the ones that actually matter.

I recently got a call from my dad telling me how much of a lazy piece of s**t (his words) I am for skipping Thanksgiving and not helping build a fence. I have to work to make ends meet and I am starting to think I don't have time for his toxic b******t.

anon , Boxed Water Is Better Report

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81points

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Hawkmoon 1 year ago

The only effective "detoxification": get rid of toxic people.

31points

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In our experience, some of the most important factors that help us live a happy life include prioritizing our physical and mental health, developing strong relationships with the people we care about, and spending time on activities that we truly love.

Living well starts with the absolute basics: from eating well and getting plenty of exercise to drinking lots of water and getting enough sleep every single night. Next, you have to find a healthy balance between work or school and your free time. That might mean different things to different people, but so long as you’re not neglecting your passions (whether that’s dance, art, travel, music, or anything else), you’re doing things right.

Though if you’re struggling or feel utterly lost, there’s no shame in asking for help. If talking to your family and friends doesn’t help, seek out a therapist for advice.

#16

Get tested. It's not in your head.

Your mother is not a Dr and doesn't know what she's talking about.

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77points

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Laughing otter 1 year ago

And if that doctor tells you it's all in your head, find a new doctor.

44points

#17

Don’t waste your skinny years thinking you’re fat.

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Maxwell Collins-Posa 1 year ago (edited)

Self love is the first step to personal success.

11points

SkekVi 1 year ago

beetter yet, unlearn fatphobia and love everybody at the size they're at, and celebrate the fact that humans evolved specifically to store fat and store it well. We're survivors, being fat is part of that!!!!

3points

Captain Awesome 1 year ago

I'm spending my fat years thinking I'm skinny.

2points

B-b-bird 1 year ago

This!

1point

Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago

OMG - this! I got 2 boxes from my stepmother last week with family pics my Grandmother had. There are a several of me that look absolutely AMAZING. HE made me believe that at 5'7 and 135 pounds I was a fat pig. You know what I'd give to weigh 135 pounds again???

1point

Marilyn Russell 1 year ago

Yes - you are beautiful the way you are.

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Nikole 1 year ago

Or someone who body shames

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#18

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Take care of your teeth / get as much done while on your parents dental plans as possible. Necessary s**t and preventative procedures. Cuz holy f**k, when you’re 24 with no coverage and you break a tooth, it’s going to take you sooo f*****g long to get it fixed and paid off.

duhbell , Diana Polekhina Report

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Brainmas 1 year ago

I keep trying to explain this to my daughter. I hope she figures it out while she's still on our insurance.

10points

ciestaconquistador , Steven Erixon Report

#19

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier If you don't think the tattoo looks good, say so. Don't assume the tattoo artist knows better than you do. Would have saved me a lot of grief and, hopefully not too far in the future, money for removal/a cover up.

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

better still, ask to see their portfolio of work before letting them near you with a needle.

17points

#20

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Success greets you in private and failure slaps you in public.

hotidit , Ian Stauffer Report

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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago

True words.

6points

sex-magic-and-life , Darius Bashar Report

#21

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Learn to love yourself because those that are supposed to love arent always there for you.

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57points

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Nina 1 year ago

Unfortunately true

8points

#22

Don't smoke. Im only 18 and this s**t needs to stop

blobs1 Report

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Maxwell Collins-Posa 1 year ago

A kid in my school got expelled for smoking. He was in Junior High, and he ruined his life with vapes and drugs.

11points

#23

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier “Apply a*s to chair.” It’s from a story Raymond Carver tells when asked how he was such a prolific writer. Changed my life when I heard it. There is no other substitute for getting s**t done than sitting down and getting the s**t done.

anon , Annie Spratt Report

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Susie Elle 1 year ago

Fundamental to this is completely letting go of the expectation that things are perfect after the first try. Heck, don't even expect it to be good the first time. Just do it. Revise later.

19points

#24

You will not have to deal with quicksand at all in your adult life. Stop obsessing about it.

ethereal7z Report

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RabidChild 1 year ago

But it's everywhere according to Scooby Doo, Gilligan's Isle and the Brady Bunch

25points

#25

Experiences > Things

Here's the test:

Without looking at anything to remind you, what did you get for your birthday in the year 2010?

I'll wait.

I can't remember what I got either.

But I do remember...

Playing in the creek with my kids

Seeing the total eclipse.

Going to the "Postmodern Jukebox" show with my daughter.

That time we stopped and cooked dinner on the side of the road because it was closed due a mudslide.

and so much more...

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47points

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tw 72 1 year ago

Make great memories for yourself and the people you love

11points

#26

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Learn self discipline. Especially over your mind. Then you can wait out a lot of your own problems. If you rush life because “you can’t wait any longer” you will have so many griefs. Disciplined Patience can do a world of wonders.

remnantteen , Jack Sharp Report

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Mtownmick 1 year ago

Delayed gratification is one of the best things children can be taught. Not forever delayed but not immediate.

15points

#27

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Practice talking to people and being with people. Social skills can be learnt like any other skill! It just takes patience, and practice.

misterlegato Report

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Eva Kašu 1 year ago (edited)

Nah, not worth it. 40 years and still thinking most people are stupid dipshits - they prove that everyday.

24points

Yeah_But_Did_You_Die , Roman Melnychuk Report

#28

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier Being an adult is about running in to problems and in one way or another overcoming all of them. No putting off or discarding the ones you don't like. They're your problems and you have to deal with and resolve them.

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Nea 1 year ago

Honestly I feel this is becoming true of much younger persons these days. Higher consciousness at young age is not letting kids stay kids.

8points

#29

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier People will give you incorrect information - sometimes intentionally, be it out of good or bad motives, sometimes because they themselves are misinformed and sometimes because they plain do not know.

Some of this information will be delivered with high confidence, some with low, but the projected confidence level is no indication of correctness.

You will have to learn for yourself what is correct and what isn't, when to trust, how to assess, how to reflect and evaluate, and sometimes you'll get it right and sometimes you won't.

Learn from your mistakes, and make mistakes that aren't fatal early and often so that you can learn as much as possible.

Learn from others experience, ask them about their life and what they have learned. You never have to accept anything as directive, but by listening you will expose yourself to more information than you could ever gather on your own in a lifetime.

Overeating, anorexia, alcohol, tobacco and other drugs will have horrid negative impact on your quality of life later in your time, even if they feel cool, net neutral or good right away. Stay away and keep dosage low as much and as long as you can.

You won't get rewarded for being good and following norms. This is how your childhood might have worked, but you will have to figure out what you want all by yourself for the rest of your life, and luck will play a much more significant role than you think in payoff.

Try not to care too much about your reputation, following rules and doing what generally everyone does if your desires suggest you want to try something else. Be careful to gather information and evidence before doing things that others suggest might be detrimental to your wellbeing.

Money is not a way to keep score or attain happiness, but not having money can limit your ability to be your best self and cause severe harm.

Have a cash emergency fund - until you have about 10k saved up, push any money you can into it. Never touch it, you'll know when you have an emergency that supersedes this rule.

Invest early, tax advantaged and often. Don't withdraw. Every month, pick some amount that you can afford to lose and invest it into the SP500, ideally in a 401k or IRA account. Invest in the SP500 even if you are not located in America. Keep doing this, don't watch the total value, never sell until you hit at least 50.

Buy a house if you could see yourself staying in an area for more than 5 years and you can make monthly payments and the down payment. Even if you move, there is a decent chance that selling your first home will set you up in a better way to buy a new one elsewhere than renting would have.

Once you have enough that you'd be negatively impacted if you lost it all, max out catastrophic insurance against liability, medical bankruptcy and loss of life if you already have a life partner or children.

Try to create meaningful relationships - people who will be honest with you, truly care about you and help you in situations where anyone who doesn't know you would be right to stay away. This includes learning to end relationships that aren't great early - at some point, you should pick and choose a set of people you want around for the rest of your life, and weeding out the ones you don't early will be helpful in this.

You can learn a lot about a person by observing how they treat others and allowing them to hurt you. If someone insults or denigrates others to their faces or behind their backs, chances are they'll project their negative emotions towards you at some point in the future. If someone steals a few dollars or a prized possession from you, chances are that if you kept them in your life they'll cause more damage along the way. If someone lashes out at you in anger when you make a mistake, chances are they'll do so repeatedly in future situations where a calm, results oriented discussion would be more productive.

Don't focus on finding your one true love; realize there are a few million people who'd make fine partners for you a few thousand who'd be perfect. The moment you choose one of those to be your companion for the remainder of your time is what makes that relationship truly special.

You cannot make a specific person love you - if they don't reciprocate move on and don't dwell on it. One sided relationships cause no end of harm, you have dodged the proverbial bullet.

Think of the initial period of infatuation as a great way to get to know a person better, but in finding longterm companions, try to choose based on character traits such as competence, kindness, good communication skills and helpfulness.

Last but not least: you have one life. It'll end sometime in the next 100 years, and you'll spend the first quarter learning and growing, the middle quarters applying yourself and having children if you so choose and the last quarter hanging on despite all the pain just to see how things play out. But that's it. One life.

Use your time well and don't forget to enjoy it.

asdfoshiahsoifh , Mimi Thian Report

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34points

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Jared Robinson 1 year ago

let me give you some advice. When giving advice get to the point. I didn't read a single word you wrote because in all of that I can see that there is no point. Lot of word salad.

45points

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#30

To let go of my jealousy. I was always so jealous of my peers who were better at sports, who were more academically gifted, who had more friends... The jealousy ate away at me for so many years and soured my relationship with my peers. It was such a waste. I could have used all that energy to maybe try and improve myself or focus on my strengths instead of hating others for being what I wasn’t.

It’s alright if you’re not the best, we can’t all be number one. No ones perfect. What matters is that you be the best you can be.

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33points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

jealousy is just insecurities...face them understand them overcome them,or at very least make peace with them

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#31

Speak up more. You're not gonna be heard if you stay silent.

_BrookAutumns Report

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Zobi123 1 year ago

But be prepared for people to not like what you're saying because it's not their experience and it makes them uncomfortable.

4points

#32

Start an IRA right out of highschool. Even is you can only afford $5 a month. Get it started right away. Also stay away from credit cards and loans. Other than the mortgage and car payment.... everything is paid in full upon purchase. Finances get so much easier doing this.

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Mark Fuller 1 year ago

As a Brit, my immediate thought was "Irish Republican Army". Please, for the love of god, don't start one of those as soon as you leave high school! One is bad enough.

37points

#33

Not everyone would like you. Stop trying to please everyone.

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tw 72 1 year ago (edited)

And they may not like you because of things that have nothing to do with you - like "you look a lot like their ex-*whatever*-in-law" or "years ago, you used to date their crush"

2points

#34

Constant negative thinking can actually lead to long term mental illness. Learn good mental habits.

Patches67 Report

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Stardust she/her 1 year ago

In order to keep myself sane my new catchphrase for when things go wrong is “ it could be worse” which will make me feel better about stuff that’s going on right now

3points

#35

School matters, so shut up and just do it. You'll thank me later.

DailyDoseOfErik Report

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Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)

School is not life. But it's full of warnings about life.

1point

#36

**Get. A. Therapist.**

To be fair I could still benefit from that advice.

owenbicker Report

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

If you can afford it and if it works for you

2points

#37

Appreciate your parents. Tell them you love them. They won't be here forever. I'm 23 and both my parents have passed. The pain of unspoken words and actions I regret but can never actually apologize for is the worst.

Edit: Today actually ~~would've~~ should've been my mom's 60th birthday. Happy Birthday Mom 💕

jennej_dtsab Report

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MINNI THE HAMSTER 1 year ago

❤️

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#38

Sometimes crying and being sad is okay, you don't always have to keep it together.

Qwertybot66 Report

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Stardust she/her 1 year ago

Crying for every little thing like me isn’t okay

4points

#39

Never finance a want or luxury item. Only take out a loan on a need.

hairyweinerdog Report

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Robin DJW 1 year ago

Using a credit card is taking out a loan. Sometimes it's necessary. Just pay it off as soon as you can, and avoid those luxury/unneeded purchases.

0points

#40

DONT....GET....FAT.... It's so much harder later on in life to get rid of it.

Womper1 Report

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cartoon ghosts 1 year ago

I seriously have no control over my eating habits, either I don't eat for days cause I hate the idea of food and the feeling of having eaten at all makes me sick or I comfort eat without stopping for an entire day and hate myself constantly but I can't stop, it's like compulsive and not eating feels empty and I need to be consuming something to fix it. I'm below average weight so it doesn't affect negatively but I hate how much I overeat

1point

#41

Do what you can afford

LeadDirigible Report

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#42

Don’t approach every relationship as ‘the one you’re going to marry’. Just have fun and enjoy your youth. Don’t take everything so seriously.

DearYouu Report

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Rain Anderson 1 year ago (edited)

You need to say it out loud first. The other one might wanna take it seriously. Also pretty sure you can love one person and have fun and enjoy your youth at the same time.

1point

#43

Don't stay so focused on the past... f*****g move on

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cartoon ghosts 1 year ago

I practically live in the future, planning out everything that's gonna happen is really comforting for me. Whenever I don't have a plan or routine for a day I either freak out or get super stagnant and depressed for a while

1point

#44

You don’t have to be the center of attention to be noticed/liked. Just be a warm, positive presence and people will enjoy hanging out with you.

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#45

You are worth it and loved

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

If you have to make a choice (and you may), remember that it is better to be worth it and not loved than to be loved and not worth it.

1point

#46

Get your sleep. Being on 6-8 hours of sleep meant that each hour I was awake I could be so much more productive. When I was running on 3 hours of sleep, even though I was awake for 5 more hours a day, my hours were largely unproductive because I would get distracted easily, doze off, or just generally feel miserable.

When I got my sleep (not just one night. Gotta get 6-8 hours every night for a couple weeks), every hour I was awake I could accomplish what I was able to do in 3 or 4 hours when I was tired. Studying for exams was a breeze because i could actually focus. Everything was easier because my brain was clear and not muddled up and tired.

Having consistent sleep for an extended period is like being a version of yourself with super powers. Try it.

GET YOUR SLEEP

midgetb34 Report

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

Yeah. Just tell insomnia to f**k off. Mad easy

7points

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#47

Wouldn't have mattered. I got all the good advice I needed, and listened to very little of it.

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

Word

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#48

Leave after the first lie. Scratch that I'm still not listening to myself.

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

Sometimes people need time to show you who you are because you've shown them that you'll love them unconditionally

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#49

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier There are good people in the world that will be glad to help if you reach out. Obviously there’s plenty of s****y people out there too, but don’t be afraid or too prideful to ask for help when you need it. I still struggle with this because I feel like I don’t want to burden anyone with my problems, but every time I’ve worked myself up over reaching out to someone and then did it anyways, I always think “man I wish I’d done that sooner.”

JodyeMarrin , Hanna Morris Report

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TiNaBoNiNa 1 year ago

It's usually culturally ingrained in us to be self-reliant. Take care of your own problems. Keep it in the family. Be strong. We need to learn the difference between a load and a burden. We can carry our own load, but a burden is more than we can handle. Look at it like carrying a stick vs an entire tree. A reasonable person recognizes they cannot handle an entire tree on their own and finds help. Look at your situation and ask yourself is it a stick or a tree?

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#50

Let people go before it’s too late. It’s going to save you from a lot of sadness.

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Cass 1 year ago

You can break up with your family. Walk away if they are harming you. Life is better without them.

1point

#51

Value the people in your life. Don't take them for granted.

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#52

Don't f**k up your life over a boy/girl. I've seen enough people destroy their entire life just because of a person not worthy of their time and energy. Spend your time over something worthwhile, instead. You'll be thankful.

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

although dating lousy choices does make for an interesting story.

3points

#53

Nothing matters as much as seems to at the time

B4dM00nR1s1ng Report

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Mtownmick 1 year ago

A king once as asked for something that would make him happy when he was sad and sad when he was happy. They gave him a ring that said, "This too will pass."

3points

#54

Challenge everything. Don't just accept something as true just bc someone you trust says it is

cmartinxc Report

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Cass 1 year ago

... and that's why my kid's teachers hated us. They'd tell the teachers they were wrong when they were wrong, and demand more information if they were vague with their information. We had one teacher call us several times and I'd ask him if the kids were right. They were. Then I asked why he called me to tell me my kids were right. The teacher had to admit that he didn't like being wrong and he tried to make that a problem for me to solve. I'm sure they celebrated when the last kid graduated.

0points

#55

It CAN be very difficult to stop something negative once you've tried it once and it works.

Drugs, Smoking, Drinking, Overeating, Swearing, Cheating, Stealing, Lying etc

GoodGuyGoodGuy Report

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raisin hippo 1 year ago

yes! i need to watch my f**king mouth sometimes- i need to stop saying so many f**king curse words

1point

#56

Get therapy, you need it. No, seriously. You’re nuts.

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

Isn't it amazing how we can all afford therapy that works for us all?

2points

#57

Even if you dont think you'll make it into adulthood, plan like you will.

Swan-LikeTheBird Report

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9points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

I'm 72, and I have a detailed plan for adulthood, should the need ever arise.

2points

#58

Do everything in your power to pursue your dreams. I am still very young but it’s something I’ve realised a lot of adults end up regretting.

Bojackin Report

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9points

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago

Most can't afford such luxuries

4points

#59

ADHD is a thing, and it's not your fault.

Julian_JmK Report

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cartoon ghosts 1 year ago

It's also super overdiagnosed, you probably don't have it especially if ur a teen or kid, it's natural to have the symptoms

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#60

Your going to fail a lot. Don't get stuck on that.

Unfortunately, I probably wouldn't have listened. But I'm only really starting to hear that advice recently, let alone internalise it and accept that failing can be good too

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

I used to tell my students "The only experience that's really a failure is the one you don't learn from."

1point

#61

It’s natural to be afraid of the unknown, but confidence comes from moving forward regardless of that fear. Making mistakes is a natural part of life.

Growing out of that stage in my life where my mistakes were not just mistakes but personal failures was a huge problem I am still working on today

Nosylibrarian Report

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9points

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#62

“You Can Talk Back To Your Brain”: 30 People Share The Best Advice They Wish They’d Heard Earlier You're not (necessarily) doing anything wrong, your 20s are *supposed* to be difficult. The idea that they're your best days is fiction spread by nostalgic adults, from an era where their lives unfolded differently. Your real peak can occur in your early or mid thirties, if you make intelligent decisions and bear unpleasantness now rather than deferring it to later. If you put off inevitable drudgery, work and stress, you don't gain the years before it as you'll constantly be stressing about the upcoming stuff. Do it now. Yes, it sucks. It will be over.

Also. *Save. More. Money.*

anon , Jeremy Perkins Report

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8points

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Rupp 1 year ago

Who says 20s are supposed to be hard? I know plenty of people that got a good jump at life. Earned good money, had less responsibilities and enjoyed having a good time in their 20s.

4points

#63

Don't trust her when she says she's on birth control. Don't assume she's still taking it. I f****d up and take full responsibility, but I feel like I got trapped too.

Gunhound Report

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8points

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Maxwell Collins-Posa 1 year ago

How about this: If you don't want to have a baby, USE PROTECTION GODD@MN IT!

12points

#64

Study

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

never stop

2points

Noodlenuggetdonutdog Report

#65

Don’t quit things just because you’re not naturally gifted at them. There’s a lot to be gained from being part of a team even if you’re not the star player.

Also, no one is looking at you and no one cares what you’re doing! They’re worried about themselves:)

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Nea 1 year ago

I am the worst dancer I know and yet I enrolled myself into classical dance (Kathak) classes. I know I look like a fool but I am having fun and some exercise too!

4points

#66

Do whats best for you

Deivew Report

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

Do what's right for you. Big difference.

0points

#67

Start building your credit early.

Brain_f4rt Report

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8points

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#68

Learn how to sell. If you can sell, you could work in almost any industry

margaritovbg Report

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8points

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Claudia Schmid 1 year ago

As an introvert, thank you but no thank you.

4points

#69

You always, **always** have a choice

milatrying Report

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago (edited)

no you don't. You didn't choose: DNA, parents, language of birth, country of birth, religious/culture of birth, schools you went to, suburbs you lived in as a kid, friends you met in those suburbs/schools as a kid. All that determined your personality before you had any "choice".

2points

#70

Quit being a punk and stop being lazy. Hug your dad more and tell him you love him.

StrawHatHS Report

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Ken_Jane 1 year ago (edited)

See the thing is he went to buy milk some 34 odd years ago...

7points

#71

Stop wasting money on stupid s**t and save save save.
Also, keep the camaro.

GoldLostAndFound Report

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#72

Don't procrastinate

gingerninja247 Report

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cartoon ghosts 1 year ago

Tell that to the executive dysfunction

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#73

Do not listen to people who say “you’re so young! You have all the time so don’t worry!” If you listen to that, you’ll end up in your late 20’s and unable to do some things at the same level you could have if you were younger. And if you’re thinking, “late 20’s, that’s not old!?” I have a surprise for you, you’re body is already more prone to injury and less able to heal by then. And your energy levels will not be as high. So get out there and be active and have adventures now. Treat every day as special. Every single one. That way, when you do reach your late 20’s and onward, you can adventure a little more carefully and not feel limited by your body.

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7points

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#74

Adults don't know what they're doing and all wish they were children again.

SurprisedCorpse Report

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tuzdayschild 1 year ago

I don't want to be a kid again, but I absolutely don't know what I'm doing.

4points

#75

Put effort in building a strong social circle and learn how to ask for help. Plus, learn to actually ask for help before you get at the point where you are not able to ask for help anymore.

On a less melodramatic note, keep a journal. I never did it and I've probably forgotten so many things already, plus it is comforting to see how much you've changed over the years. Reading about all the stuff you worried about, that just worked out in the end.

Corvidiosyncratic Report

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7points

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

I do (b) here. It's also a help so as to get obsessive rumination and fears out your head.

1point