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tralphaz43 , Maria Helena Mazuroski Report

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds 40 isn't old

Final score:

189points

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XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago

I just turned 38, and I am steady trying to pump the breaks every day. lol But, my older brother just turned 40 and he's out there climbing mountains and entering triathlons so...yeah, I guess you're really only as old as you feel.

48points

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don't fall into the trap of thinking everyone else your age has something that you don't and you feel hopelessly behind and like a failure.

Once you're out of school, there are no timelines anymore. You are not supposed to do anything by any particular point in your life. Everyone is different.

You are not supposed to have had X number of sexual partners, had X number of relationships, be married, have a kid, own a house, have a dream job, or figure out your calling in life at any particular point - if at all.

Life is very long and you will have many chances to do things.

Make your own path.

zazzlekdazzle , Einar Storsul Report

Final score:

187points

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StrangeOne 1 year ago

Even when you're in school, all those timelines (not mistaken for the work deadlines.) are not made in stone. Some people graduate early, some at 18, some at 21 or older. There are people who've never graduated and get on better than someone who went to university. There is no real deadline in going back to school for anything. Your timeline is the time you're alive.

33points

Anom8675309 , Christopher Sardegna Report

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds You're not special, no one cares what you do and the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you can be at peace with yourself.

Final score:

180points

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Meowzers! 1 year ago (edited)

You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing cr@p of the world. (Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club)

77points

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Stretch everyday or at least more then never. Stay limber and flexible because once it is gone, it’s almost impossible to get it back.

jjovenr , Tamba Budiarsana Report

Final score:

177points

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hitex 1 year ago

Yes! Stretching sounds silly or useless but sooo helpful

40points

Bored Panda got a chance to speak to one of the submitters in the original post, and that is u/unabtaniuam.

In their submission, unabtaniuam took a very zen approach to advice, pointing out a number of universal, yet spot-on truths: life is short, be grateful, and learn to live in the present for the past is a mere memory now and the future is only up to our imagination at this point.

They cap off their thoughts by saying that folks, instead of accepting negative self dialogue, ought to observe so as to learn from it. In turn, "you are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know."

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds You aren't going to get rich as an influencer or become a professional gamer. Get educated and get a job.

stumpytoesisking , Axville Report

Final score:

176points

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hitex 1 year ago

PLEASE LISTEN TO THIS!!!

69points

TrailerParkPrepper , Karolina Grabowska Report

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds take care of your knees and back.

Final score:

169points

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TC Wilson 1 year ago

And your teeth!

11points

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds It’s okay and healthy to sit in silence. Put down your phone, leave your earphones in your pocket, and just be. It’s important to not constantly be stimulated.

yourpaljax , Andrew Measham Report

Final score:

165points

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Mrs Irish Mom 1 year ago

Love a good quiet walk with the dog at 6am its so peaceful and quiet and i dont listen to music until my 6pm walk because thats so noisy

31points

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don't cheap out on a mattress, pillows or shoes.
Cut back on the sugar.
Do NOT bring work home with you.

bastardo1313 , Tim Samuel Report

Final score:

157points

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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago

Yes to the sugar, I learnt the work thing by force and about to order a mattress lol

28points

#10

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Cut s****y people out fast with a sharp knife. There are so many f*****g people on this planet, why give second chances? Also, family are friends you didn't get to decide to bring into your life, but should be held to the same expectations as non family members. So many toxic family members saying "but were family..."

burningpetrol , Annushka Ahuja Report

Final score:

127points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."

7points

In our interview with u/unabtaniuam, they elaborated that their advice comes from a difficult time, one that involved overcoming an addiction on their own.

"This is what helped me pull out of the lows in my life. I’ve always been pretty positive and had a deep understanding that there is more to life than the daily trivialities. Who helped? Eckhart Tolle, Alan Watts and Ram Dass. Spiritual gurus and yogis."

#11

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Avoid "toxic positivity" people. Actually, try to avoid all toxic people, "toxic positivity" is just a bit harder to recognise. It is ok to be not in a mood sometimes.

Ehehehen321 , Amadeo Valar Report

Final score:

117points

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UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 1 year ago

The universe led me to this post!

19points

#12

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Take photos around where you live; streets, buildings, forests, etc. Because everything will look different in 20 years.

zook54 , Bảo Minh Report

Final score:

111points

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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago

It will, even the street you live on changes drastically.

24points

Debbie 1 year ago

Why would you want to photograph everything? Why nail everything in place? Some moments are golden because we let them slip by. Not saying don't take any photos at all, but does it matter?

4points

Janice Sanz 1 year ago

Great idea!!

1point

Claire Bailey 1 year ago

Yes. We bought our house not even 3 yrs ago. It had 1 house next to us on one side, a lovely patch of gum trees over our back fence. and a large open piece of land next to us. Now there is a string of units in place of the gum trees, and the land has been split into blocks and sold off. So far 6 houses have been built with 2 more in construction and room for another 10 or so yet to be started. I liked the open area and miss the gum trees.

1point

Joy 1 year ago

Oh so true.

0points

John Blaine 1 year ago

I disagree. Live in the moment. Do not look back.

0points

featherytoad 1 year ago

Even growing up in a rural setting, houses just keep popping up.

0points

honey_milktea 1 year ago

i never really thought about that. thank you, now i definitely will

0points

GrimeyScorpioDuffman , Kamaji Ogino Report

#13

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don’t waste time being the person other people think you should be, and instead be the person you want to be

Final score:

91points

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I’mSoEmotional 1 year ago

Even if it’s your parents

1point

unabtaniuam , Марина Вотинцева Report

#14

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Love life it is short. Be grateful for everything. The biggest burden you’ll carry are your own thoughts. Learn to live in the present, the past is just a memory and the future is just your imagination. You don’t have to accept the negative self dialogue, be the watcher of those thoughts and learn to let them go. You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know.

Final score:

85points

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Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago

Christopher Robin?

22points

#15

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Save your money

Coldeethel , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

83points

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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago

Yes, yes and yes...but don't hoard either. Enjoy life too, just be financially responsible.

39points

u/unabtaniuam focuses on a number of themes in their original thought: life and death, the burdens of time, thoughts, and negativity, just to name a few. But, according to them, the key is here is to tackle the negative and the critical.

"The critical judge in your head does not tell the truth and it does not have your best interest at heart. Recognize it and don’t accept it."

This then ties in well with the idea of observing it and learning from it, all the while negating its influence over the mind.

#16

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Your dreams are not static. It's ok to decide the dream you had at 15 is no longer for you

DonnaJScot , Amina Filkins Report

Final score:

81points

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hitex 1 year ago

I 1st wanted to be engineer at NASA - dream changed to patent lawyer to help small inventors - dream dissolved but what to do? Got a job at small law office, took the divorce & custody cases they didn't want & now have a successful family law practice. I love my job. So yes, let your life experiences modify your dreams. You'll never know where it takes you. No child or young adult says 'I want to be a divorce/custody lawyer' - but it's the most fulfilling career I would ever imagine

29points

#17

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don’t “wait to get in shape”

Start working out however is enjoyable to you so you avoid health risks later. Don’t wait to have to lose 30 lbs

STARoSCREAM , Fortune Vieyra Report

Final score:

79points

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hitex 1 year ago

My experience - its much harder to get in shape at 40 v 30.

36points

#18

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Take care of your teeth. It's nice to have high standards, but it's even better to have a friend with you and not be alone.

VapoursAndSpleen , Shiny Diamond Report

Final score:

76points

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Manatee 1 year ago

Tooth pain is a hell you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. Heed this advice

42points

#19

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds I'm 56. You don't have as much time as you think you do. Don't waste it, don't waste a single f****** day. Do something everyday even if it's just something for yourself. Drink plenty of water and use sunscreen. Donating blood doesn't hurt that bad. Doing something you like for a living is more rewarding than doing something that pays even exceptionally well. I've done both and the former is preferable in my opinion. I'm rambling too much coffee😳😳

TimRenick , Szűcs László Report

Final score:

75points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

I'm not sure about that last one. For me, the instant I monetize an interest, my interest starts to fade until every scrap of joy I once experienced while pursuing that interest has disappeared. You pursue an interest because you WANT to. When you monetize it, you are now forced to pursue it. Maybe it's just me, but I think I would grow to hate the thing I once loved.

26points

zazzlekdazzle , Andrea Piacquadio Report

#20

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Fail more.

Fail all the time.

Set yourself up for failure.

Because what you will learn is that failure is not some horrible catastrophe, it's actually a part of a process of getting better at something or getting what you want. And going ahead into failure is often how you find yourself unexpectedly succeeding faster than you expected.

And the more you fail, the more you immunize yourself against the fear of it so you can get more of it. Failure is something you actually *need* in your life to really get the things you want.

Final score:

71points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

You need to think of failure as simply data gathering. You only failed because you lacked sufficient data. The makers of Formula 409 failed 408 times and kept at it, gathering data until they were able to succeed.

31points

LionAndLittleGlass , Austin Distel Report

Lastly, we asked if giving advice, whether to young folk, or anyone, really, is truly challenging. And u/unabtaniuam pointed out a concept that's very true with a lot of folks:

"I have found it is easy for me to give good advice from the heart. But at the same time hard for me to follow it for myself."

There is this idea that it can be difficult to follow your own advice because you are much closer to your own problems. And so, not only are you more aware of the context and nuances of it all, but your emotions are often also more powerful in clouding your judgment. But advice for others comes easier and more naturally as we are more distant from these factors, and thus can approach it with a clearer mind.

#21

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds 1. Upvotes and thumbsup from social media doesn't matter. Your job title on LinkedIn doesn't matter. **Like nobody cares.** Your children won't care, your loved ones won't care, your gravestone won't say anything about it.
2. Don't think you are the be all and end all when it comes to trends and social knowledge. 20 years from now your children will look back upon you as savages. This happens every generation. Think about context before you judge others.
3. One person already said it, **but don't think you are so special**. The trends of parents over the past 20-30 years (saying you are perfection) isn't helping you. Work hard, live a good life -- be kind to others, admit your mistakes. (Aside: I have two kids and worked really hard to make them feel loved while simultaneously making sure they take responsibility for their actions)

Final score:

57points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

If your kids mock your "outdated" clothes, ignore it and wait. Within 10 years, they'll be stealing those same clothes from your closet, as they've become fashionable again. I'm 58 and I've seen the following trends reappear multiple times: platform shoes, bellbottoms, mini-skirts, maxi-shirts, belly shirts, low rise pants, mom jeans, overalls, jumpsuits, rompers, bodysuits, over-the-knee boots, ankle boots, middle part, side part, blunt cut, layered cut...I could go on.

35points

FreshlyWritten69 , Anthony Da Cruz Report

#22

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds You know that dream that seems nuts to pursue?

Do it now.

When you’re old, with a house and a mortgage and a dog, s**t like “I want to make a movie” get much more complicated

Final score:

56points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

"I wish I'd done that when I had the chance" is an infinitely more painful regret than "I wish I'd never done that."

27points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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#23

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Dull answers, but genuine ones:
- put more into your pension than you are now
- avoid debt where you can
- don't hold grudges
- look after your health
- learn to enjoy the now
- be nice to your parents. They might be d***s, but you'll probably still miss them

Myjazzysocks , Dylan Gillis Report

Final score:

54points

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Ace 1 year ago

Yes to all but the last one. They were never a part of my life after age 15 or so, don't miss them at all now they're gone.

23points

Dense_Letterhead_248 Report

#24

People at work are not your friend! Even if they're nice to you.

Final score:

54points

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Mama Penguin 1 year ago

Not always true. I met one of my closest friends at a previous job.

40points

#25

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Enjoy your hairline/boobs, they aren't going to get better and you will fondly look back on where they were situated when you were younger and hotter.

Smyley12345 , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

52points

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Ace 1 year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss.

50points

CalabreseAlsatian , Alexandra Lowenthal Report

#26

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Keep at a healthy weight/fitness level, and do more now than sitting around waiting for later.

Final score:

46points

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martymcmatrix 1 year ago

Throw an apple a day at any doctor in way...

17points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#27

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Stop. You won't ever be the perfect image of yourself in your head

atorifan , Frans van Heerden Report

Final score:

42points

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Dumpster Fire 1 year ago

I'm actually trying to be the WORST image of myself in my head. So far, I'm succeeding.

9points

#28

Once you're out of school, don't keep the friends who bring you down, You really don't need that and the benefits no longer outweigh the drawbacks.

You know what I mean, the friends who only call when they need something, the ones who make you feel bad when you fail and worse when you succeed. The friends who encourage you to do things you actually don't want to do and discourage you from growing as a person.

Focus your time and effort on your high-quality friends. It's not about quantity anymore.

zazzlekdazzle Report

Final score:

39points

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Mighty_Condor (He/Him) 1 year ago

Do this before you leave school, you don't need that in addition to the stresses of school

21points

#29

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Keep active and eat well.

Basic advice can be trickier to implement than it seems. The path of least resistance is to grab the soda on the end cap at the store and to skip the gym because you're tired today. And it's really easy to rationalize *just for today* without recognizing what's become a pattern.

It always seems like there's tomorrow until the body gives out, and once that happens it can be a vicious cycle. Have seen people's knees start to go by their mid-twenties. Have seen people go through three back surgeries in their thirties. Have seen heart attacks end it before age fifty.

So two tips:

Find a sport you really enjoy. Once you find the sport you love, dig into the wallet for good equipment. This isn't a frivolous expense: it's an investment in yourself.

Learn to cook from scratch. You don't have to graze on "superfoods" from kale to purple cauliflower to whatever else is the fad this year. Instead, eat mostly healthful things and go light on the treats. This shouldn't feel blah: if something tastes like cardboard then don't eat it. Just aim for a reasonable balance and try to make the reasonable stuff tasty.

doublestitch , Gabin Vallet Report

Final score:

38points

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Scotira 1 year ago (edited)

🤣 every time kale is mentioned as superfood I'm like "what?" To me kale has always been a staple 😅 comes from living in Northern Germany as child. Everytime I want to buy it here in Switzerland it comes in 300g packages and is expensive as heck 🙄 wtf do I do with 300g anyway? Edit: sorry, bit off topic 😇

19points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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#30

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don't take yourself too seriously, whatever you do you'll probably look back ten years later mildly mortified at how deep you thought you were.

You're just another confused human not destined for greatness and there's no grand scheme in which you matter one bit, so just chill.

If you have issues with your self confidence and depend on the validation of others, adress that s**t by whatever means are available to you. Nobody is going to do it for you and being insecure gets old fast.

Take care of your health. Wear sunscreen.

StrangeArcticles , Caroline Veronez Report

Final score:

35points

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Mrs Irish Mom 1 year ago

Your health is your wealth

13points

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30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds save money. work for a higher pay. value yourself. it's nice to live for today, but tomorrow is important too. absolutely do not fall into the trap of "my retirement plan is death" lest you be broke as a joke in old age. live within your means. delayed gratification is good. eat right. sleep right. exercise. never stop learning and using your brain. avoid hard vices. moderation is key. cherish the true friends you have. they're rare.

sporks_and_forks , Scott Graham Report

Final score:

14points

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Annymoose 1 year ago

All these save money ones are hilarious. How sweetie? Paying 60% of wages towards housing? Lemme just pull myself up by my bootstraps!

10points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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Mom Leaves $250k Inheritance To Son, Throws A Fit When Daughter Stops Looking After Her

#32

Learn to let things go. Forgive yourself. If all that fails, drink beer and tequila. 🤣

Dr-Lavish Report

Final score:

14points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

The "failure plan" actually incorporates the original two goals, so yay for efficiency.

3points

#33

Travel!! If in the US, get to Europe. It’s an amazing experience!

Long-Function2549 Report

Final score:

13points

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KMB 1 year ago

Travel America for an amazing exoerience

12points

#34

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Roth IRA. Contribute until it hurts. By the time you make enough money that maxing it is easy, you won't be able to any more.

YoungCheazy , Austin Distel Report

Final score:

12points

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hitex 1 year ago

THIS - started at 16 & have well over 6 figures now at 40!

5points

BookmarkThat , Ehimetalor Akhere Unuabona Report

#35

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Don't party. Bar tabs are the dumbest way to spend your money. Don't jump from relationship to relationship. Learn how to be single and happy. Use condoms. They don't feel bad, people are just stupid. Even with a condom on, pull out anyway. Buy used cars and learn to work on them yourself. Anything you finance, pay more than your payment amount. Pay the principal balance down and save on interest. Find people that aren't surrounded by drama and be friends with them. Help little old ladies. When you start dating a girl, meet her parents. Make a good impression. Separate your colored clothes from your white clothes when you do laundry. Take your clothes out of the dryer as soon as they're dry and hang them up and you'll never have to worry about wrinkles. If something needs to be done, get up and do it right then and there. Don't procrastinate.

Final score:

10points

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Ace 1 year ago

Party as much as you can, within your financial means obviously, while you still can. Nobody ever got old and said they wished they're had less fun when they were younger.

18points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#36

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Have as much fun as possible. Try and enjoy the now and not get lost in the hope of the future. Figure out who you really are and learn to live with that person. Hold on to your friends for dear life. You make your close friends up to 30 and then spend the rest of your life doing things with them. Yes you can make friends later in life but it isn't the same.

lennon818 , Omar Lopez Report

Final score:

10points

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Blue Bunny of Happiness 1 year ago

Nah, you can totally make close friends later in life. I didn’t meet my best friend until my early 40s.

15points

#37

Young people, you already know what is there right thing to do. Get on with it. You don't need some older person to tell you what to do.

nosnowtho Report

Final score:

8points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

50% of the US House are 60-86yo. In the Senate, 74% are 60yo or older, with the oldest being 89yo and observably senile. GTFO. I'm a 58yo GenX, and my generation has never held the majority in either chamber. We currently hold 38% of the House and 23% of the Senate, and the youngest of us is 43. Go home, older people, and stop telling the rest of us what to do. You're legislating for a future you will never experience and can't understand. Step aside.

10points

#38

30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds Show up on time for work. Just because the job is easy or the work environment is laid back, it doesn't mean there aren't people tracking your attendance.

We've lost 2 people on our team in the last month who were pretty good, but they just couldn't show up on time. That badge you swipe every morning when you come in? Management tracks that s**t.

Along the same lines, it is important to be the "adult" in the room. If you were working at my office, and you wanted to get off of the night shift and come to days? I'd tell you "show up on time, and act like a grown up."

That's how I got promoted. Management went down the list and asked "who shows up, does their job, and doesn't cause drama?" That's all there was to it.

gogojack , Marten Bjork Report

Final score:

7points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

Sorry, but this one in naive because it presumes that every manager will behave the same way to the same employee behavior, and that's provably untrue. Sometimes, people just don't like you for whatever reason, and being on time won't change their mind.

17points

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

I'm 58. (1) You're an organic computer operating a meat puppet. Read the manual and follow the maintenance schedule. (2) Develop your own ethical code. Be vicious about applying it to yourself and avoid applying it to anyone else. (3) Self-awareness, self-worth, self-consciousness, self-care, and self-esteem all have one thing in common: you. No one else's opinion matters. Ever. (4) To thine own self be true. (5) Toxic people do not deserve a drop of your time, energy, or care. If they cared about you, they wouldn't be toxic to you. (6) Set your own goals in life, none of which should consist solely of "keeping up with" anyone else's accomplishments. (7) Speak out against injustice, even if you're not the one being treated unjustly. (8) Experiences are infinitely more precious than possessions. (9) Treat others the way you like to be treated.

22points

Adam Zad 1 year ago

(9) No, treat others the way THEY want to be treated.

0points

PunchinelloTX Premium 1 year ago

No matter how careful you are, no matter how fit, no matter how well you eat, how much you exercise or how much sleep you get, you can get sick—very sick, very quickly. Some illnesses are in our genes and are out of our control. What matters, should that happen, is your attitude, and strength of character.

15points

Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

I'm 67. Life is a matter of balancing things out. Spend some money, save some money. Be careful to whom you open up. You can choose your friends but not your family, sometimes family are not friends. Travel. Eat and drink well but in moderation. Moderate exercise will help keep you healthy. Find a passion. Learn to play an instrument. Read. Love. When you lose someone close to you (which you will) it will change you, don't try to fight it but cherish the good memories you had with them. Treat others how you yourself would wish to be treated. Be honest to yourself and hold yourself accountable. Take the credit when it's due but own up and accept the blame when it's yours. Life is not easy, it will be full of detours. If you don't like the path you are on it's usually up to you to find another path. If you are wrong, do not be ashamed to admit it but learn from it. Nobody likes a liar. Trust is hard earned yet easy to lose. A man must know his limitations.

13points

Two_rolling_black_eyes 1 year ago

You cannot control how anyone else will act or feel. You can only control how you will react or feel. Your boss cussed you out at work? Its already happened and it can't change. DECIDE what you want to do and feel about it happening. No one can make you feel some way. Ignoring their comments, feeling betrayed, and feeling angry are all valid responses but never let someone else choose the right one for you.

3points

Anony Mouse 1 year ago

I only have one - this is for the ladies. Your eyebrows are fine. Leave them alone. Are there two? Then you're good. Stop messing with them - you will regret it.

3points

Gina Foxley 1 year ago

Yes!!! My Mom gave me this advise years ago and I am so glad I listened to her.

0points

H G 1 year ago

Sure, I agree with things above. Now I need the money for it. My best advice; you are in your f@#t it 40's. Live like it.

3points

Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago

I'm 29, but I don't think anyone mentioned this: Sit and stand up straight! Your teacher in class telling you to do the first thing is trying to keep you from having issues with your posture. Some people can start shrinking at 30.

3points

Powerful Katrinka 1 year ago

I'm 64. My advisor is simple: Don't believe everything you think.

2points

Rick 1 year ago (edited)

Everything I read here is worthwhile and important. One thing I did not see that I believe also helps in getting through life is to get in tune with the life around you. All life not just people. There is a a lot of positive and negative energies that can be influential on your state of being. Learn how to be in the moment and determine your next decision with the energy around you.

2points

Rachel Ainsworth 1 year ago

Having enough money in a savings account gives you a way to deal with emergencies and freedom to act when needed. Fridge or car breaks down? Buy a new one. Bad things happening at work? Quit and then look for a new one. Sick of the 9-to-5? Go travelling for six months. Get sick? Pay for test/treatment instead of waiting on the public system (excludes USA).

2points

purple addict 1 year ago

i'm under 20. it feels good that i already know all of these advice and implemented almost all of them (only the ones i believe will be good for myself). this post is like a reminder and i'm happy i found it.

1point

Verena 1 year ago

From a 40 year old it is valuable advice, if a 50+ year old says the same it is "okay, boomer, you have no idea, this is bs".

1point

Amanda 1 year ago

40 something. Don't listen to me, I'm still a teenager inside

1point

Shane S 1 year ago

Get into therapy. Mental health issues show up in your mid 20s and 30s and it’s good to already have the tools to deal with them. Plus, most people have something they need to work out or address and it’s so much easier to deal with it earlier than later.

1point

Carl Wroe 1 year ago

While all the advice about health is prudent, remember this. The number one killer in the US is not bacon, not smoking, not drugs, not lack of exercise…..it is stress! You can do all the Peloton, power walking, push ups and follow whatever fad diet you want but if your life is filled with stress (from outside sources or self inflicted) it will all count for nothing. Do what you must to reduce/eliminate stress! Money….it’s handy to have, but that is all. If you can feed yourself, clothe yourself and have a place to sleep, you have enough money. When I look back on my 57 years I can honestly say there was absolutely no correlation between how much money I had and how happy I was. Some of my best memories are from when I was flat broke and some of my most miserable experiences happened during affluent times.

1point

Aiden Brough 1 year ago

Here's mine. Social media is a cancer - If it's free, then you're the product so someone is WANTING you to use it and waste your precious time. Life might be short, but it's the longest thing you'll ever do. Moderation and balance is the key - with food, drink and time. You work to live, not the other way around - Work pays your bills, it shouldn't be your hobby or a surragate family. Only do what you want to do - learn to say no - people will take advantage of you at the end. There is no karma, cosmic bookkeeper or 'If I dream, it'll happen' - You are not special, you are not the center of world and accept that c**p happens to the best of us and scumbags get rewarded. Finally, don't look for happiness - you will never find it. Instead, look for 'contentment' - happiness is just the mirror of sadness, like all emotions, which should be both fleeting but also character building...

1point

Dan St John 1 year ago

Get some life long hobbies. When you are older and retired, you will not only need them, you will also have the time to enjoy them. People with hobbies live longer and enjoy their later years more. Try and make one or two of them, outdoor activities so you keep getting exercise too. Golf, fishing, metal detecting, cycling etc.

1point

IamMe 1 year ago

Life is not a competition, nor a job. Take the time to relax, and chill out.Doing good enough is better for your mental health than striving for perfection in most things. Stress is terrible for your health. And, touch grass. Literally go outside, and connect with the world we live in. Even if you live in a city. Go to a park.

0points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

50 here. Do something useful every day. Learn something new. Don't be scared of complex things. Exercise and proper diet.

0points

Kevin J. Henning 1 year ago

Exercise if you think you need to, watch what goes in your body if you have to. Just don't get too hung up on "you." You might look better than the next person laying in coffin but we're all going to die.

0points

Brett Layton 1 year ago

1 - Never marry a whore 2 - Milk the teat until its dry 3 - If you are going to do something bad. Be Sneaky!

0points

FreckledFox 1 year ago

Being your own best advocate isn't something to take lightly. Do it. If someone says it's at their expense, you will be better off without their cost.

0points

LastButNotLeast 1 year ago

I Needed these Words... Thank you

0points

iRay 1 year ago

Yeah....most of those advices are pretty s****y.. I do find important to watch your health, spendings, friends and and and... But, i wont set up myself to a life full of only hard work, not much spendings, sleeping early just because i have to be in shape when i'll be older. When i will be older i will regret to not enjoiyng any parts of my life, just because.

-1point

Steve Hall 1 year ago

Stop voting for old people, the world does not belong to them. Require mandatory retirement for everyone.

-1point

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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago

22points

Adam Zad 1 year ago

(9) No, treat others the way THEY want to be treated.

0points

PunchinelloTX Premium 1 year ago

15points

Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

13points

Two_rolling_black_eyes 1 year ago

3points

Anony Mouse 1 year ago

I only have one - this is for the ladies. Your eyebrows are fine. Leave them alone. Are there two? Then you're good. Stop messing with them - you will regret it.

3points

Gina Foxley 1 year ago

Yes!!! My Mom gave me this advise years ago and I am so glad I listened to her.

0points