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“Experience is the best teacher,” or so the old cliche goes, but, realistically, most of us would prefer to be forewarned about the realities of life. From how to spot a bad friend to the best ways to internalize personal boundaries, it can be pretty helpful to learn from others first.
Someone asked “What's a piece of adult advice you wish you'd known sooner?” and netizens shared the things they learned perhaps a bit too late. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to add your own ideas and experiences in the comments section below.

#1

“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Be careful of who you vent to at work. Just because they listen or show some empathy, it doesn't mean that they're your friend or have your best interests at heart.

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Michael Largey
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone at work may be your friend, but remember that's not why they show up there.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Working harder than everyone else only means the boss will load you down with even more work.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Don’t let stuff pile up. Bills, stuff on your to do list, cleaning, low tire, engine light on, etc. It sounds basic but getting stuff done as soon as it comes up (as soon as possible) lowers stress and makes life way easier. Stuff doesn’t just go away, and getting it done quickly removes piles of stuff later.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Learn to live alone.

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marianne eliza
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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! When I finally lived alone, and had no one else to cover my tuchus if I was late on rent or other bills, I underwent a complete change. Only 1 credit card, no other loans. Now my (64f) credit score is 810, I have bought, refurbished and sold 3 houses on my own, acting as general contractor each time. Learn to rely on yourself. You may not need it, but you just might.

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#8

Spend more time with your parents and grandparents. It's easy to overlook how quickly they're growing older while we're busy with our own lives. One day, their absence will hit harder than you can imagine. Cherish the moments you have with them now, before it's too late.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier A piece of adult advice I wish I'd known sooner is that it's okay to say "no" without feeling guilty. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your mental and emotional well-being, and it's not selfish to prioritize your needs. Learning that you don't have to explain or justify your reasons for declining something can be incredibly freeing and helps you focus on what truly matters to you.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Someone else’s greater achievements doesn’t take away from your progress. It’s you vs you.

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#11

You're gonna be disliked by people. That's their problem, not yours. You can only take responsibility for the mistakes you actually make not the mistakes others think you have.

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Michael Largey
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"So you've got enemies. Good. That means you've stood up for something sometime in your life." - Winston Churchill

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#12

Budgeting is less about numbers and more about saying no to impulse buys.

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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Before you buy something you don't need because "you work hard and you deserve it," stop and do the math on how long you'll have to work to pay for it. That will often take some of the shine off of it.

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#14

“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Confidence beats ability in most jobs.


Most friendships are situational.


What people present on social media isn't usually who they are.

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#15

It’s ok to not have an opinion on something or to say nothing sometimes.

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#16

“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Set a timer for taking the beer out of the freezer.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you need to chill beer quickly, wrap the first beer (or two) in one layer of wet towel, and put it in the fridge along with the others. By the time the first beer (or 2) is gone, the others are ready to either drink or put in the regular section of the fridge.

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#17

Get strong legs and core. Life gets so much harder if you cant move well.

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Mez
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, and you can even start in your 40's....what you do now will dictate how you spend your last years on this earth.

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#18

“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Practice talking to people and being with people. Social skills can be learnt like any other skill! It just takes patience, and practice.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And everybody can be a doctor, it "just" takes patients and practice. No, this is far too simplified, the word "just" tells us that. Social skills, functioning with others, can be an act, can cost a lot of energy that needs to be replenished at some time, even after "patience and practice". Don't let someone promote themselves as the norm.

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Lou Cam
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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not if you have ASD. I've got a psych degree and studied a lot about social behaviour and interactions. Could I put any of it in place? In a short, surface level interaction yes but I was just acting normal. Once I've got past the initial interaction it all falls apart. Knowing when to speak in turn and reacting to body language and facial expressions is a key part of communication for humans. People with ASD and also ADHD don't do too good with these skills no matter how well taught to act otherwise.

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John Harrison
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, but "Not if you -" is ALWAYS the case. I could talk about a great trick to learning tennis faster, and you could jump in and say, "Not if you're a quadruple amputee!!"

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AgingBull
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can burn my self every day to learn to tolerate the pain it doesn't mean I would enjoy burn

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CanadianDimes
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who did this and he's one of the coolest and most social people I know now. He realized he didn't have good social skills so just started practicing.

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LadyHermit
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a great conversationalist and the whole shebang. But once I understand - and fairly quickly - what a person is mostly about - namely pretty much the same superficial s**t - my interest goes down the drain fast. So there's that too.

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Nosirrow
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All you need is empathy. Which is bad news bc it is apparently extremely rare these days. Interrupting people is rude, humiliating them is completely unnecessary and it's not that hard to understand what they expect your reaction to be.

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Jerry Bee
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very much so, and thank you for posting that here. There are many who keep advising to learn to be alone etc. What is happening to people? Get out there and live/love.

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Charlotte
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person can learn interaction and communication skills, and also benefit from becoming self reliant and living alone. The two are not mutually exclusive

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Karina
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You start by watching people you admire and see what they do. Then you roleplay it in your head to see what adjustments may be needed. To stay grounded, you should also roleplay it as someone you dislike. To see how it sounds when you didnt pre-build it with respect and admiration. Practice is best with eighter young or old people, because they dont hold back and they are honest if you ask questions.

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Ms. McCormick
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not for an introvert. We hate small talk which is what you are talking about.

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Amberlie Mikelsen
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Normal is non-existent except as a setting on a washing machine! Not to mention exceedingly BORING! Be unique! Be YOU! If being you means that the rest of the world could take a long walk off a short cliff and you would neither notice nor care, so be it!

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matt adore
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned this by working in customer service (restaurants). Totally got me comfortable being extroverted... But I LOVE and appreciate alone time... Like, Don't f#@*ing talk to me!!

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like this might be more... you find out who/how you're comfortable interacting. It helps a person who has never done much of it figure out what IS good/okay. Essentially if you don't know, and that's what's freakin' you out ... well...

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Anna
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All these neurotypical posts are starting to annoy me.

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#20

Your job is just one part of your life. Don’t let it consume all your identity or dictate your self-worth.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I learnt this the hard way but now I keep it as what it is, a job to pay the bills.

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#21

Don't stay because they say they'll change. Leave because you value yourself.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't necessarily agree with this one. If they say they'll change, there's nothing wrong with giving them a chance to do so (I'm not taking about physical abuse). Contrary to what some people will tell you, it is possible. I'm living proof.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier It’s better to be completely alone and find good friends/romantic partner than keeping the toxic ones just because you love them so much. Everyone is toxic to a degree and has something to work on. Doesn’t give people an excuse to treat you crummy. Don’t feel like your “giving up” or “abandoning” someone because they are treating you poorly and you decide to end the friendship/relationship.

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#23

Not everything deserves an immediate answer. Take your time and contemplate the pros and cons of your situation before responding.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone won't let you go away and think about it first, they're probably trying to pull something. Doubly so if they're trying to sell you something.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Not everyone who smiles at you has your best interests at heart.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Don't base your success off of others lives online or in real life. Just don't.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just today I got a reminder of just how easy it is to sound more impressive than you actually are. Lost your job? Nah, you just decided it was "time to explore new horizons". Couldn't find another one so you signed up for a community college course for a far less skilled position than your old one? Nah, you're "studying at the moment".

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier There’s a price to pay for every choice we make.

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#27

It’s okay to leave the situation (relationship, friendship, job) that isn’t working for you.
Also, always have glue and duct tape at home. You never know when you’re gonna need it.

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#28

Your parents are not always right.

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Do that thing you really don't want to do but know that you absolutely should do. And do it, like, *now*. I can't remember a single occasion where I regret taking the initiative and heading off some incoming problem but I've lost track of the number of times I've regretted leaving some issue to resolve itself. I'll save you the suspense: they never do. Just deal with that s**t whilst you still have the home advantage, and prosper.

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Take care of your teeth. Floss daily and get cleanings twice a year.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do the first two especially if you can't afford the third. And there's always bicarb

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#33

Don't put it down, put it away.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One I definitely need to pay attention to. Once again I introduced my "just do it right now" policy. Notice a cup has been sitting on the table for some time now? Put it away. Finished drawing for today? Put the pencils and erasers back in the tin. As someone who's got issues with untidiness and forgetfulness, it's something I'm still working on. But I'm definitely making progress.

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#34

Don't compare your insides to others' outsides. Appearances aren't everything.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Take care of your teeth. And go to a dentist ones a half a year.

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#36

What others think of you is none of your business.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is such a valuable outlook on life when taken seriously. I grew up in a harsh environment where "disrespect" was confronted regularly with extreme aggression which led to serious consequences like death and/or jail time.. which ruins lives on both sides of the situation. Then I had an epiphany, that led me to this exact conclusion. If you don't like me for whatever reason, that's completely YOUR business and really shouldn't affect anything I do personally. I'm already in my 40's, still surviving, still existing and I never knew you felt that way and it never affected my life at all, so now that you made your feelings known, what changed about my life just now when learning this new information??

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier Everyone's faking it. Yes, even that super-confident, capable person you know from work/school/your friendship circle. So don't feel scared if you are too.

The more you do the things you're scared of the more naturally they'll eventually come to you. That's how anyone and everyone builds competence in anything. So don't make excuses for yourself. Just get on with it.

Be OK with being bad at things. Everyone's bad at the start. The real measure of competence is how willing you are to stick things out and slowly improve over time. Obviously, this requires a measure of common sense - if you really hate something, don't force the issue. But the likelihood is you're going to suck at your new hobby, profession, sport, exercise, musical instrument, language, or whatever endeavor you're hoping to pursue. And that's more than just 'OK', it's natural.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake it till you make it has served me well over the years because it gives me permission to try things that I'm not confident doing.

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#39

Looking good ( well maintained) and dressing properly really counts, unfortunately our society treats us differently by our looks.

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“Forget Your Bad Friends”: 50 Examples Of Adult Advice People Wish They’d Heard Earlier “Two things that you don’t pay attention to until you get older, your health and your wealth”.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My health has always sucked, I don't want to pay attention to it (still do anyway).

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#41

It's perfectly fine to have a dominant personality as a woman and if people find you intimidating (when you didn't intend for that to happen) that is not a me-problem but a they-problem.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But everyone needs to be aware of the effect they have on people. No reason to act like a jerk just because one is assertive.

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#43

Take more risks while young, don't settle for a job you hate and do it only for the money. Try to find your passion early on, so you can enjoy life longer !

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one needs a disclaimer. While you shouldn't stay in a job you hate, finding one you're passionate about that pays enough to live on may not happen. Find a job that you don't hate and pays the bills. You can be passionate about your hobbies.

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#44

You are not Special just like everyone else. So Don't be an A-hole.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can be special and not be an a-hole. I will say that most a-holes I have met are pretty generic. Not special at all.

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#45

The acceptance of things that you couldn't change. (both physically and mentally).

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Michael Largey
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, don't accept things that you can't change. But accept that you can't change them.

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When you are doing something bold, different, creative or something the world hasn’t seen, and you’re deeply unsure but still want to put it out there - do it anyway - then you are invincible. I turn 35 in two days and learnt this barely a week ago (the hard way with too much self-critique, anxiety and chaos, and lost a lot of time). Don’t wait this long. Hope this helps someone.

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#47

Working hard can make you more money. But finding a way to do less work and make even more money should be your true goal.

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#49

Limit what you give and remember what you take.

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#50

Learn to manage stress and avoid burnout.

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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, ok! If only someone had advised me to avoid depression too, I'd be great!

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