This is my worst fear. I cry myself to sleep somedays thinking about this

Some of us learned this at a very young age

this

The trick is to do it in ways that you like - I like going to the gym, I don't mind cleaning, and I like my boyfriend. Once something gets to the point where you just hate doing it, you need to stop - and no, the alternative ISN'T worse

That was one of my biggest disappointments when i became an adult. As a teenager I beliwved that bullying and idiocy would dissapear after school. Then I got to the university and no... But I tought that it would go away after. I was so wrong...

or them dying

This! Exactly! How was 2020 2 years ago!?? I haven't even finished digesting 2019...??..??

You can focus better with less auditory stimuli.

How do I end this cycle? I know people who can do alot compared to my capabilities. Some weeks I can do with 4-6h sleep. Other days I sleep 16h straight multiple days in a row.

Then finding out you have vitamin deficiencies and wondering which is taking more a toll on your health. The deficiencies or the stress of the job

I'm tired all the time

Nothing new to me. I started becoming a workaholic as a teen.

How relatable, now dealing with achilles tendonitis.

My energy level and quality of sleep improved A LOT when I started exercising 3-4 days a week (I’m 39 btw).

Once an insomniac, absolutely nothing helps no matter what so called experts recommend.

Yes! Why?ough!

Any how much my body aches constantly.

That we are actually mortals. That realization hit me hard, by way of a hit and run when I was 27, and then f-ing covid --I've been a "long-hauler" now since March 2020, and so I went from being 39 to feeling like a beat up 80yo within MINUTES of going down hard. I thought I was invincible. Not even an allergy. That car couldn't even kill me (thank you helmet) Never got sick. 24 hr flu twice in my life. Wtf

Sucks this old age I’m in since I was 35

Call the doc and get a blood workup done. Especially for your thyroid. That little s**t can reeeeaaalllly f**k you up if its not working right.

I am convinced that many people would divorce and be single if rent was affordable for 1 person and moving out was easier.

“Shouldn’t” I just hate that word. I have had severe insomnia since I was young, I have some.friends who are the same way. They got tested in a sleep study, some of us have brains that just don’t shut down for long sleeps. It is what it is

And that's why I don't have kids and why quite a lot of people probably shouldn't. Not because they're suicidal, but because the exhaustion, poverty and solitude of much of life means that they can't guarantee that their kids WON'T be suicidal

I feel this so badly. Since I became too ill to work or study I feel absolutely useless. I could get used to being unemployed but working in our garden for food/animals. But being only able to do housechores, and with a lot of difficulty, has broken me. My life now is emptying the dishwasher, laundry and tyding up a house that is never clean.

Never ending story

O.M.G. Yessss This. This is exactly how my whole adult life has been but couldn't explain it as well as this.

Stop talking about Republicans versus liberals and start agreeing with each other on how screwed up the payment system is in the US maybe if we stopped arguing we could get something done. I'm talking to both you iconoclast and jmdirks.

This is my life :( I cant keep up

So can a dozen other situations. It’s not hard to become homeless these days, what’s hard is dragging yourself out off that hole and not having it be your default go to when the s**t hits the fan. There is a YouTube channel titled Invisible People, run by a guy who experienced homelessness and got back on his feet, he now interviews homeless people. Although their stories can be hard to hear, it can really shine the light on how things like predatory lending, medical debt, divorce etc can land good hardworking people on the street.

Understandable.Virtual hugs big time

Oh just last month I fell asleep with hair clip on, woke up with blocked upper torso, neck and left arm. Husband had to help me in and out of bed for a week.

I feel ya

Oh, this is/was me.

Sucess at work is 90% politics and 10% luck.

And not being able to read without glasses! And how all your skin goes wrinkly, hate those

Most people are just doing the best with what they have which is why being compassionate is never a bad thing

Death is the ultimate game changer. Sorry for your loss, virtual hugs

Everyone has their own agenda, some are just more closeted about theirs than others.

And expected to just work through even though u need a break!

I love to clean. Sorry I’m the wet blanket to your dislikes, but I love seeing just how beautiful and clean I can get things. Like gardening and cooking, I get to see and appreciate the fruits of my labor each time I do the task. I guess I’m easily entertained

I love the stability and predictability. I now have the peace of mind to enjoy free time, being it arty, outdoory or cuddly. I'm all there and experience it to the full. Real connection to me, to nature or to someone else.

Just say "they died" and end all further questioning! And hopefully embarrass the nebby noser.

I see them and I QUIT.

Yes. I found a fellow Asperger to marry and now I'm not lonely anymore. I dread the day they'll die though! I block that train of thought though as that day is not here now. Live in the moment. Invite yourself over for coffee at the neighbours. There are many nice people out there.

We should teach kids emptional intelligence. I have none and dont know how to be assertive without sounding angry or whiney

Unfortunately many of us weren’t told that working hard is only one part of the equation.

Watch the oldies. You may be reasonably certain of the outcome, but the path there is almost always delightful.

I don't have kids and this is one of the main reasons. I am an Adverse Childhood Experiences survivor and know myself well enough to know if I don't get regular time to myself my coping capacity goes down to near zero. Time on my own is used to decompress and process so I can keep on an even keel and not be a concern (or honestly just a plain nightmare) to my loved ones. It helps me maintain reality and own my emotional/mental state. I used to feel ashamed I "couldn't cope like everybody else" but now I just own it.

Live in the moment, in the now. You're not dead right now and neither are they. Your stress isn't a solution to these eventualities, it's not practical at all. You may stress when it happens, not before. And I assure you: you will be OK when it happens, because that time too is lived in moments and not as an avalanche. You are OK. You are built to experience life in moments and they're always in the here and now. You are built for this. You're a natural too and you will find so once you let your controlling mind back off a bit.

Most of us are just trying to do the best we can, imposter syndrome or not. The rest are just freeloading jerks making life hard for everyone around them