It's just so boring to read how people tell others what they can or can't do. If you want to live with your parents until you're 50 and it's in mutual agreement than that's fine. On the other hand if you think you can make it alone when you're 18 that's fine too. If everyone just stopped trying to force their opinions and beliefs upon to others, this world wouldn't be so messed up.

it's my belief that living with parents is sometimes a choice. if an employed young man or woman chooses to live with their aged parents to take care of them, i see nothing wrong with that. on the other hand, not living with their parents, yet mooching off them to pay their utility bills is not really commendable. for instance, i live with my widowed mother because she is lonely and she has spent the majority of her savings trying to give me an education. i choose to not live her alone. that is the least i can do for her.

Me and my dad rent a place together, both listed on the rental agreement. He receives the basic pension and I earn just above minimum wage. We both pay half the rent and other bills, and split the chores between us. Sometimes I feel in the way, but he constantly reassures me that he doesn't mind at all and we're very close. I have a dog and as he's retired, he looks after her during the day (he doesn't mind. He loves her to bits (spoils her also). She's more his than hers)

I moved back in with my mom when I was in my 40s because I lost my job and subsequently my apt in California (mom in CT). We lived together for a couple of years until I was able to move out on my own again. If not for her, I would have been homeless. That was 15 years ago.

Living in your moms basement is the universal way of saying LOSER. It's too bad we have to lump everyone together - if a person lives with mom and dad but contributes value to the household and also is developing their own life outside the home then good on 'em.

In Bulgaria it's pretty normal to live with your parents until you can support yourself or you marry. The whole nuclear family thing benefits businesses the most - if your whole family lives together you need less stuff, because you share. But if you all in separate nuclear families each one needs their own stuff. Still, to me the best way to go about this is to live in a shared house, where every family gets their own apartment/floor. That's how my dad's side family lives (and lots of people do this; I've seen up to three generations in one house - grandparents, parents and kids). That way you're still close enough with your family that you can help each other, but your relatives can't butt in too much into your personal stuff, like how you raise your kids (like my maternal grandmother is single-handedly responsible for ruining my close relationship with my brother that my parents had cultivated in our early years; we're on good terms now, but not as close).

I moved out at 23, 15 years ago. Not because I had loads of money or a good job or was getting a mortgage, just because I wanted to

I only get like 200 a week from a student allowance, rent anywhere is at least 150, how would I be able to pay at least food and electricity with just 50, at least with my family I pay 100 board and then the rest goes towards bus to get me to class and anything else I need to get like supplements plus a wee bit for snacks or anything that I may feel like getting that week.

Hmmm...my daughter, 20 yr. old grandson, & I all happily live together... When my daughter was divorced & she went through a devastating spinal syndrome, I would've done anything for her & my then 2 yr. old grandson to move back with me. So, I took them in along with her 3 cats! She is still disabled with this today & I have a lot of back problems myself. So you see, its not always the kids being lazy...but what is best for all! Don't judge if you don't know the circumstance!!

Think of the big families that all owned brown stones in places like NY and they all lived together in veritable peace. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, each branch with their own section that could get together or not. Sounds like a great idea!

Do not judge your neighbor till you have walked from dawn to dusk in his/her moccasins. Jobs that pay a decent income are hard to come by, and the wages of the working class have been stagnant for decades.

When tumblr users explain something you can be sure that this is not an educated research, let alone include any sources, but merely is an opinion piece.

I moved out when I was 25. I finished studies, went abroad after applying for a few jobs. When I got back I got luckily employed and was able to stand on my own feet. It was quite common where I live to move out when you actually were independent. Staying with parents in mid 20s is nothing to criticize imho. Staying with parents in mid 30s though I find a little disturbing, but that is based on my culture, general observation. I know that in other places living with parents when you are married and have own family is nothing unusual. Maybe we should focus more on ourselves instead of looking into other peoples business?

The real question: is the young person living w/ 'rents really trying to move their life fwd? Through work, school or some other way? Or applying for jobs? If they can honestly say they are then it's not unreasonable. If you're the young adult doing this, do you pay rent/help out financially? That makes it much more defensible, but if you can't do that at least clean, and do MORE than your share of cleaning to offset the inconvenience of your presence. I moved back in w/ my 'rents at 29, broke & jobless. I'm no perfect person & wasn't then, but at that time you wouldn't have found a day I wasn't applying for jobs, resume tweaking or networking. And I cleaned a ton, did long needed deep cleans/fix-ups. Three house-areas were better after I moved out again - sure enough I got a job after enough efforts and un-boomeranged. Fellow Millens, yes it's been a tough econ, but we have to keep trying and be the best adults we can be. Our childhoods ended a while ago. Get over it.

There's nothing wrong whether you live with your family or moved out to be independent maybe it depends on your choice, situation, culture and financial stability. Well here in the Philippines it's just pretty much normal if you still live with your parents and moved out when you were married as long as your single and helping your family it's more convenient and money wise since paying rent and everyday expenses are costly rather than staying in your parents house and share expense.

I can't afford a house and I absolutely don't need it. Most people I know live in flats which consist of two rooms, a bathroom and a kitchen. You live with your parents until you have enough money for your two rooms, or even one, because flats are expensive and salaries are low. Or until you get married. Or until you really have enough of your parents. We are lucky there's little pressure in my country.

The real issue here is white people who are now getting the treatment given blacks for decades..low pay. Quick to get fired. Quick to be thrown out of an apartment for not having a job.. Whites...who refuse to accept that the low pay and high school bills means they have to go live WHEREVER THEIR MONEY TAKES THEM.. Like a poor neighborhood among those blacks and Mexicans you've learned to think you were better than... You're going to have to go to a FOOD BANK or buy cloths from GOODWILL once and a while. You can't get toys anymore with your paycheck..a videogame? That's a toy. So is your high end cell phone. Get a generic phone that has GPS so you can find things. BASIC CABLE TV OR NO TV AT ALL...and watch dtv GASP..SHOCKER Stop stealing your parents older year's...WE HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO SPEND TIME IN OUR HOMES ALONE WITHOUT YOU HOGGING UP BATHROOMS, WASHING MACHINES, AND UTILITIES.. We worked to get where we are, regardless of where that might be. So GET TF OUT.

One problem I have noticed with grown children who "fail to launch," is their expectation of moving into an economic situation that it took their parents 20 or 30 years to establish. Millennials don't seem to be willing to start at the bottom and work their way up. I started with c**p furniture in a c**p apartment. And I always saved some money, even if it was only $5 a week. Yes, prices were lower, but so were salaries. That reality always seems to even out.

Its funny how people praise families in poor countries for staying together, its because there isnt any type of welfare systems in place, theres no other options.

I'm 23, live with my parents, co-own a car and hold down two jobs and two volunteer positions. My parents want me to move out, but we don't see the point in moving out and renting. So I'm waiting until a house I can fix up (and flip down the road) comes up for sale in my town. The longer I stay at home, the more money I can put down on the house, the lower my mortgage and the sooner I can pay off my debt. FYI I've already managed to power pay-off my student loan (took a year). So the only way my money is going out is gas, insurance, food and phone bills. I'm hoping to buy my house next year. :)

If my mom wasn't an unbearable control freak I'd move home tomorrow.

Look I am not a millennial, I am a gen x'er and raised some millennials. First yes the job market and the cost of living suck, but it always has, to live on your own just starting out it takes almost every dollar you have and too many kids now don't want to have to give up their drinking money, gaming money, dining out money to afford rent somewhere. I still have a 26 year old I raised since he was 13 living at home, yes he has a full time job but doesn't want to move out just yet because he says he is saving up, but the truth is I don't think he is ready to struggle and deal with the stress of juggling bills to keep things on. I love my kids and can't bear the idea of ever having to kick them out of the house but it is a hard and stressful providing food and other expenses to adult children. I don't know where I come out on this issue but I am a little tired of the whining about how hard it is to afford a place on your own, it always has been.

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I went to college at 17 and never lived at home again. I was financially independent from my family starting at that age; I paid for both college AND grad school; took out loans; worked 30+ hours a week; and managed to it all relatively successfully. Oh yeah, the grad school was in NYC by the way. I paid off my student loans in 9 years and bought my own apartment in NYC 10 years ago. So, is it possible to do it all on your own? F**k yeah it is. You just have to have a good work ethic and be willing to devote your time to things beyond your studies. And don't give me that "it's more expensive to live nowadays" c**p. It's not substantially different now than it was when I moved to NYC or when I was in college as an undergrad. It's b******t.

Lol, guys, i got my place because i didn't move out, even when my parents trolled me or beat the hell out of me (when i was born, child abuse didn't existed), into total submission. Being only child, when they died... I GOT THE HOUSE!!! Not a bad plan coming from a 12 year old kid, and to think i was being told that i was stupid by my 'lovely' harpy-an mother. My mom would've made you cry.

You NEED to leave home! These are the times that you should be learning life lessons! Life lessons that you cannot learn if you are not independent! It kills me to hear young people say, "Im not built to adult yet",

I see a lot of fingers to point to todays problems. Was once told by my grandparents that when I point to others for excuses 4 more point back to me. today I use more than one finger to do that. The US government all but gave away our jobs to other countries by government fiat in its trade deals, Unions often ask for more than what is reasonable for the amount of labor produced and little to weed out the loafers in its group. Our educational system pushed people for years to get a degree in fields were it really makes little sense to get the jobs done efficiently. And pushed to make it a requirement when ever possible. Belittle even good paying blue collar jobs. Then push for the government/banks to give loans and then raise the cost of education far beyond inflation. Oh and make it so that even bankruptcy can't get you out of paying it off. And of course I want more free stuff from the government that is already borrowing money like Wimpy from the Popeye cartoons.

To the one who says you're not really an adult if you still live with your parents. Yes, you are. An adult who cares for the elderly (and kids, if you have them). Also, I liked the perspective of Michael B. Jordan (if I remember correctly), when he said something like "I don't live with my parents, my parents live with me."

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What on earth will you do if both parents die in an accident, God forbid?? Move right into a homeless shelter then??