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Woman Shares A Powerful Message Explaining Why Friends Can’t Always Be There For You, And It’s Eye-Opening
Sometimes life takes us by surprise and but at least we can always turn to our friends for help and support, but what happens when your friends can’t be there for you? Do you consider them bad friends or do you think that once you grow up you should learn to only trust yourself?
Recently, one Tumblr user Kushandwizdom stated that friends are useless if they can’t be there for you during the most crucial times. People quickly jumped to respond, pointing out that once you’re an adult, being a good and supportive friend isn’t always that easy. One comment, written by Robin Ross, received a lot of attention after she pointed out that just because a friend can’t come to help you, it does not mean they are a bad friend. “I’ve been in many situations where adult matters had to come before being there for a friend in a time of need. It’s not easy, it’s not fun, but it is a fact of life. If I leave my job because my best friend was just served divorce papers, then I’m going to be fired. It’s not realistic for me to walk out of my job, the only income in my household because my best friend is emotionally distraught”, Robin told Bored Panda. “I would like to add that if someone is putting pressure on you to be there for them 24/7 and claims if you’re not, you’re not a good friend – that’s emotional abuse and should be addressed.”
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Recently, one Tumblr user stated that friends are useless if they can’t be there for you when you need them the most
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But one person quickly pointed out that once you’re an adult, being there for your friend is not always possible
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Many people started sharing their own personal experiences about what it’s like to be a supportive friend
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Person2638 6 years ago
I almost feel bad for the person who said that friends are useless if they aren't there when they need them the most. With that mindset, do they even have any friends? Is this based on experience? I feel like I need more information to judge.
Parmeisan 6 years ago
I was not there for one of my best friends when she needed me, for several months, because I was going through a period of deep anxiety. She forgave me for it, which has helped me to forgive myself. I still regret it, but I understand that it's okay to be flawed. We do the best we can, and hope that it's enough.
Stille20 6 years ago
I went through something similar with a friend. She was going through something and expected that I could be her rock, but I simply did not have it in me at that moment because I was going through my own issues. It took us a while to recover, but I think it helped us create some boundaries our friendship.
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Zenozenobee 6 years ago
I know a man that is always there for his friends, ready to drop everything for them. The kind of guy that let his wife paint the kitchen all by herself the day they were supposed to do it ( A friend had call in the morning, he broke his car 300 km away). The kind of guy that didn't come to his son school play (A friend needed him to move in his new house). The kind of guy that didn't help his wife to prepare the huge dinner he "organised" for friends engagement (he was running with a friend that needed motivation to lose weight). My cousin divorced that man... oh and he missed his son 10th birthday party (his new girlfriend was too sad to stay alone this day)
Person2638 6 years ago
I almost feel bad for the person who said that friends are useless if they aren't there when they need them the most. With that mindset, do they even have any friends? Is this based on experience? I feel like I need more information to judge.
Parmeisan 6 years ago
I was not there for one of my best friends when she needed me, for several months, because I was going through a period of deep anxiety. She forgave me for it, which has helped me to forgive myself. I still regret it, but I understand that it's okay to be flawed. We do the best we can, and hope that it's enough.
Stille20 6 years ago
I went through something similar with a friend. She was going through something and expected that I could be her rock, but I simply did not have it in me at that moment because I was going through my own issues. It took us a while to recover, but I think it helped us create some boundaries our friendship.
Load More Replies... Zenozenobee 6 years ago
I know a man that is always there for his friends, ready to drop everything for them. The kind of guy that let his wife paint the kitchen all by herself the day they were supposed to do it ( A friend had call in the morning, he broke his car 300 km away). The kind of guy that didn't come to his son school play (A friend needed him to move in his new house). The kind of guy that didn't help his wife to prepare the huge dinner he "organised" for friends engagement (he was running with a friend that needed motivation to lose weight). My cousin divorced that man... oh and he missed his son 10th birthday party (his new girlfriend was too sad to stay alone this day)
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