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30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner

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There is no universal list of red flags in a partner one should look out for; or run away from the second they see one. However, some things are more likely to be considered red flags by most, even though they might not scare everyone to the same degree.

Members of the ‘AskReddit’ community recently discussed red flags they don’t mind so much in a potential partner. It all started with the user ‘Cerseiriously’ posing the question, and their fellow redditors were open and honest about it. Scroll down to find their answers on the list below and see if you would consider any of these red flags deal breakers yourself.

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#1

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner "How a man treats his mother is a sign of how he'll treat you so be careful"

Or if he dislikes his mom, doesn't want to help her, be there for her, talks bad about her. It could be because she's horrible and it's just a sign of how she treated him.

Prestigious-Phase131 , Danie Franco Report

Final score:

142points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Agreed, you need to understand the family dynamic before you judge.

94points

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#2

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Having friends of the opposite sex. I don't understand why people act like it's a big deal.

molwalk , Surface Report

Final score:

128points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Opposite sex friends should be a massive green flag!

100points

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#3

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Someone who’s been single for a long time! I find jumping from partner to partner more concerning. Some people never figure out who they are on their own.

geminibaby , Kristina Litvjak Report

Final score:

124points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

👆🏻This 💯this👆🏻 I'm always bowled over when someone's broken up/divorced after a long term relationship and is dating within a month or two! - whatever happened to taking 50% of the relationship time to process and figure out who you are without them?

34points

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#4

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Someone who isn't close to their own family. I'm not close with mine, either. I'd actually think it was refreshing to be with someone who understood and felt the same way.

JoeyTepes , Tyler Nix Report

Final score:

122points

Clown fish 1 year ago (edited)

Some family's are toxic so why have them around

61points

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#5

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Not having a lot of prior relationships (as an older person). When I met my husband, he was 34 and had had only one serious relationship up until that point which was 15 years prior.

Now I know a lot of people would see that has a waving red flag and think there was something "wrong" with him, but the reality was he was in a male-heavy specialty (engineering college to an engineering job), had a job where he traveled about 90% of the time and, when I met him, had just moved back to the area where he had grown up after being away for over 10 years. None of that was conducive to meeting people or a relationship and, beyond that, he's not a particularly social person or someone who really revels in the company of others, which didn't help.

We met online, we clicked, we started dating, we got married 2 years later and are still married 18 years later.

Sniffy73 , Octavio Fossatti Report

Final score:

97points

jennymac312 1 year ago

Thank you! I'm 35 and neurodivergent. I've never had a serious relationship. Not for lack of desire or trying. It just takes a special person to find my quirks cute and not off-putting.

35points

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#6

Depression. My misses was in a rough way when we met. I took her under my bubbly delightful wing and pulled her in the right direction. Helping and supporting her every single day it may be tiring at times but s**t I wouldn't trade it for the world. She is amazing I type this as I sit next to her knowing she means everything to me. Damaged goods are fine by me I was damaged at a point in my life but I'm healed and am will to help heal others. My wife is a rock star and the light of my life. Love, listen be patient, and don't be afraid to point out where they goof. People goof often I goof often. A goof is nothing more than water under the bridge.

therealjoe12 Report

Final score:

96points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

This is beautiful 😢

37points

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#7

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Back when I was dating, I didn’t mind a girl with a lot of “experience” (Reddit loves using the term body count). If she wanted to be with me after being with lots of other guys, that told me I must be pretty damn good.

GrimeyScorpioDuffman , Jonathan Borba Report

Final score:

94points

Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago

I hate the term "body count". It's freaking gross

65points

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#8

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner I’ve been told my lack of social media is a major turn off and a major red flag. But I find a guy that doesn’t have any social media or very little attractive. It’s all about perspective.

expertlyblended:

Not posting a lot on socials. I used to think the world was ending if my partner didn’t proclaim me as their true and undying love on the internet. It was never that deep. I was just insecure. The people who matter know that we’re together, and that’s all I care about.

anon , Sara Kurfeß Report

Final score:

80points

ToGo 1 year ago

I've never had social media. I've no desire to see a curated version of someone's life and I don't want my special moments permanently etched on the web. If I'm weird, if that's a red flag to the masses, then I simply do not care.

5points

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#9

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Not being ambitious in their careers. They have to be responsible, and ideally financially stable. But at the end of the day, work is just work and doesn't define us, and they can have a lot of other passions in life while just wanting to get by in their careers.

Odd_Philosophy_5944 , Magnet.me Report

Final score:

58points

Clown fish 1 year ago

I don't want more work thank you

15points

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#10

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Someone with mental health issues. I basically screened for that when I was dating. Hubs had one depressive episode in his life, meanwhile I struggle a lot with it. But just him having the one episode allows him to know somewhat what I go though and be there for me in a way someone who never experienced depression couldn’t.

lostintheabiss , Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 Report

Final score:

57points

Captain McSmoot 1 year ago

Mental health issues, BUT dealing with it/handling it (meds, therapy, etc.) = green flag. It shows self-awareness, responsibility, and courage; qualities anyone would want in a partner or friend. If someone has a known problem and they're not willing to deal with it and just use it as an excuse to either do what they want or play the victim, that's a MASSIVE red flag.

7points

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#11

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Being broke and somewhat dependent. I've never been with someone who had their s**t together perfectly and unless they want me to mommy them, I'm fine with that. I'm also a little behind in life when it comes to career and stuff.

Primary-Plantain-758 , Emil Kalibradov Report

Final score:

57points

I heart Boo-BI-es 1 year ago

Don't be so hard on yourself, there is no age limit to when we should have met certain milestones. I'm 38 and have just started back in university due to shìtty circumstances. So I'll be over 40 by the time I graduate and hopefully will start my career shortly there after. Screw society, you do you on your own time!

38points

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#12

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner No friends. No family contact. Because those are all the things I’m currently dealing with. By choice. Friends just kind of faded and realized I was the only one putting in effort. And my family is extremely toxic and one-sided. So I would look at it more as a green flag. But in a relationship right now with someone with the opposite of me and sometimes it’s a struggle. But it’s workable.

Ashamed_Agent626 , Kevin Lee Report

Final score:

53points

Lydsylou 1 year ago

If you dated someone with no friends then it would be nice to introduce them to yours but I can see how maybe they would want a little too much attention from you. I have a friend and I'm his only other friend and he is constantly texting or inviting me places because he has no one else to invite which can get a little annoying and overwhelming but it might be different if we were in a relationship because I would want to see him more often

2points

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#13

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Someone who doesn't like dogs / cats/ pets. Some people here would have you believe they're secret psychopaths or something but some people just don't like animals. They could have had a traumatic experience with one while younger or just have a phobia.

Kaiserhawk , Calvin Ma Report

Final score:

51points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago (edited)

I wouldn't call this a green flag, but I wouldn't think they are a psychopath either. In any case, I have had pets all my life, so I personally need an animal lover if we're going to live in the same house.

61points

WindySwede 1 year ago

Like some neighbours that talked about shooting cats. Grown men, fragile, so fragile. No way back from than, for me to have any trust in them. Whether it was "just talk", I don't care. They are still rotten for me. Sick.

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Trish 1 year ago

It's not whether you want to be around animals that concern me. It's how you would behave around the animal if you were alone.

13points

Eva-Katherine Smith 1 year ago

Or like me who is definitely an animal person but currently has two cats that vomit everywhere, have frequent sloppy poos and one went through a territorial phase and is now peeing all over the place. After they die I plan on having a long break from pets. Contrary to how all of this sounds they are healthy cats they just have sensitive tummies and are picky eaters.

9points

Oskar vanZandt 1 year ago

Can 100% relate...

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Kosh1k 1 year ago

I think there's a difference between just not really liking pets for yourself to actively hating animals. Not liking pets is fine (they're a big responsibility and lots of work, and not everyone wants or can commit to that). Actively hating animals is a huge red flag.

5points

Kel_how 1 year ago

Or allergies

5points

Abel 1 year ago

This can be critical in a relationship.

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Lydsylou 1 year ago

I grew up in a house with a lot of pets but I wouldn't say I'm a huge animal fan. I can deal with reptiles and snakes that aren't constantly around you, stay in a tank a lot of the time, dont require much attention but when you want to you can play with them. But dogs are annoying with the amount of attention they need and cats are constantly under your feet. I'm fine when it's someone else's animal then I love to play with the cats and dogs but I just can't live with them

2points

Sunshine Lady 1 year ago

Pets were filling my needs of love, company, someone to take care of. I needed my cat really bad, without even realizing it, before I got pregnant with my first kid. If our precious cat haven't died unexpectedly at 3 years old, I wouldn't give her up. But now I don't feel the need of pet, it's a lot of additional work. I hope someday to have an awesome pet again ❤️

2points

jennymac312 1 year ago

This is definitely a red flag to people who own multiple animals, like myself. I am blessed with two extra floofy cats and a husky :D We're not going to work out if you don't like animals.

2points

Blyss Blyssylb 1 year ago

For me personally, this would be a red flag ONLY because I am that weirdo that talks to animals. Matter of fact, I would rather talk to animals more than most humans. Why? Hm...

1point

Elio 1 year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with not having pets or not liking pets. But I have a cat and if you date me, you have to get along with him. (He's sweet though.)

1point

Austin L 1 year ago

I admit, the instant I saw the image I didn't read the caption before I exclaimed, "bostons!!" What are we talking about again? hehe...

1point

Auntriarch 1 year ago

I am currently babysitting my brother's Boston, he's a dear little thing but he farts worse than greyhounds

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AnkleByter 1 year ago

There is a difference between not necessarily wanting to live with/care for animals, and flat out not liking them. It's not an and/or situation. There may be very valid reason(s) for the dislike, which I would need to consider/talk with the person about. But someone who has no reason at all other than "just don't like them" or worse "hate all animals". Yes, that might be a red flag to me that I would need to be cautious of. That doesn't mean someone is a psychopath out the gate, but it would make me wonder about other aspects of them I don't like (or wouldn't like). My experience tells me people who flat out hate animals (with no just cause, no fear, just hatred), do indeed have something wrong with them. But my experience isn't the be all end all of everything.

1point

TotallyNOTaFox 1 year ago (edited)

I love animals a lot, but cats aren't pets I would ever want to have again in my living space for more than a week max. Had dogs for my whole life so far

1point

HolyDiver 1 year ago

I recently saw a very popular video of a woman who claimed any man that didn't like cats was because he was a major control freak and to run away. 🤣

1point

Auntriarch 1 year ago

Drivel. None of my family like cats, and the only control freak is my mother

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UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 1 year ago

I understand people who are frightened of animals or who didn’t grow up around them, but if you simply dislike them you can’t convince me there’s nothing wrong with you.

1point

Fussy1 1 year ago

I'm thankful for people who adore animals and consider them family and give them all the love they deserve, even though I'm not one of them. I have never liked/enjoyed animals. Taking a step or two back from an overly friendly slobbering dog doesn't mean there is something wrong with me anymore than someone who doesn't like/enjoy kids taking a step or two back from a sticky toddler. I have issues with animal smells, with being licked, with being climbed on/over. I have no desire to take on all the responsibilities of pet ownership. Yes some animals are cute and clever, but I much prefer to look from afar. I don't care to have that interaction. I lack a desire to be around them. I have no past trauma associated with my feelings. But I know I wouldn't be able to give an animal the life it deserved. I did help my distraught neighbour look for their lost cat. I even pulled off the road and grabbed a towel from my trunk to wrap a shivering injured puppy in and laid it in my lap as I drove to a veterinarian office. I just don't have warm gushy feelings for animals that many people do, but I do have empathy and a heart. So I'd like to think there isn't anything wrong with me for feeling this way.

2points

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CP 1 year ago

I am particular to smells and fur everywhere.

1point

Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago

I don't dislike animals, but I'm not a pet person. I am fairly OCD (my son calls me a psycho with a dust mop) and having pet hair all over just grosses me out. My husband would love a dog, but we live in a condo with no actual yard space. AND - since he goes to work at 0:dark 30 I would be the one who would have to take it out in the morning. Nah.

0points

Karen Lyon 1 year ago (edited)

I have a SIL who has been around dogs her whole life and is crazy about them. The negotiations with my youngest brother, who is NOT a dog person, about how many dogs he could deal with, are pretty funny. He is a fabulous human being who is simply lukewarm at best on the subject of pets. We have another lovely brother who has roommates with three cats that he couldn't care less about it. It is what it is.

0points

Joe Standford 1 year ago

Phobia or trauma I can understand, But the saying trust your animal friends is right

0points

Lauren Wilder 1 year ago

I don't have any pets. It doest mean that I don't like them. Pets can be expensive.

0points

Björn Krämer 1 year ago

I think the word "animal lover" for people who like pets is very misleading. Having a pet is eventually a selfish interest. You have it, because you enjoy the company and to take care of it, not because you're actually helping the animal (except in case of animals from shelters of course). Or are all pet owners vegan? Obviously not.

0points

Ima Manimal 1 year ago

No. That’s a sign of a sociopath or psychopath. Nope.

0points

Ashtray 1 year ago (edited)

I don't see it as a problem unless you dont own said animal.

0points

Oskar vanZandt 1 year ago

I don't intend to live with any human person full-time long-term again, so if they intend to spend time at mine, they'll have to be okay with cats being around...

0points

L H 1 year ago

Not everyone likes pets. I don't like everyone. Simples.

0points

PE is me 1 year ago

If you don't dogs, you're not for me, but I'm sure there are plenty of others out there for you.

0points

Tams21 1 year ago

My grandparents had a dog that terrified me so much, I used to worry about visiting. I'm still afraid of dogs.

0points

Papa 1 year ago

. . . or save their emotional attachments for people.

0points

BrownTabby 1 year ago

Like, it can be a logistical dealbreaker - I don’t want to share my home with a dog so if someone wants to have a dog, they’re probably best off cohabiting with someone else - but it’s not a MORAL problem.

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#14

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Not being very communicative or chatty through text. Some people simply aren’t into texting.

I dated a guy who was like that. At first I took his lack of communication and short answers as not being interested… when in reality, he simply wasn’t much of a texter. I just accepted that’s how he was. In person he was great.

sweet_dream515 , Kelli McClintock Report

Final score:

45points

quentariel 1 year ago

Or some people are the opposite. They could write novels with each text, but hate talking in phone.

24points

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#15

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Being “high maintenance”. I think it all depends on which definition of the phrase you’re going with. I’ve heard it used to describe women who are obsessed with their appearance and take 2 hours to get ready for a night out with hair and makeup. That doesn’t bother me at all. I like to look my best when I go out for the night and I like the woman I’m with to also look her best. Plus I enjoy the time they’re getting ready. I either chill and do stuff I don’t usually have the time to do (video games/YouTube/whatever), or I sit and chat with them while they do their makeup and hair. It’s a nice and peaceful time to unwind together and check in with one another before we go out for the night.

Peelfest2016 , Laura Chouette Report

Final score:

45points

MiriPanda 1 year ago

I always thought of high maintenance as of people who need constant attention and gifts, who are very picky and not easy to satisfy and also prone to temper tantrums.

60points

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#16

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner I can be inconsistent at responding to texts and I like people who are the same way. Being glued to your phone and expecting constant communication is unhealthy imo. If it’s urgent, call me!

atelier__lingo , Alex Ware Report

Final score:

38points

ShaZam 1 year ago

I may not get to you today, tomorrow, or next week ... but I read your text ... doesn't that count 🙄

8points

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#17

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner “Oversharing” and some amount of surface-level emotional instability.

I’ll take someone who is open about and grappling with their feelings and worldview over someone who is trying to bury them. Furthermore, people who are embarrassed by or ashamed of their emotions and are therefore trying to manipulate them rather than address them are likely going to have the same response to *my* emotions as time goes on.

SandpaperTeddyBear , Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 Report

Final score:

36points

HolyDiver 1 year ago

I have found that many people can't handle openness, honesty and truth. They want the false imagery or 'honeymoon' behavior. I am who I am. I've been in recovery for over 30 years now and am used to being around people who value those qualities. 'Normies' tend to freak out a bit when you don't have a hidden agenda and mean what you say.. it's mind blowing.

10points

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#18

Self harm scars. As someone who's been there, I personally think it shows immense mental fortitude and strength. It shows that you're a fighter.

Final score:

35points

Clown fish 1 year ago

Shows that they can grow and got help

12points

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#19

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner IamTheShark:

Can't cook. I prefer to have total management of the kitchen.

dynamicdickpunch:

I'm the same, but with kitchen cleaning. There's my method of cleaning, and then there's all the wrong ones.

IamTheShark , Conscious Design Report

Final score:

33points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

As a woman, my friends find it weird that I want to do all of the housework. It's not about old-fashioned values, I just like it.

18points

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#20

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Someone who needs their space. Maybe a lot of space. I describe my perfect relationship model as a Binary Star system. I've unfortunately found that a lot of men (I'm a woman, fwiw) are a little too protective/possessive or something along those lines to let this work.

Peliquin , Ante Hamersmit Report

Final score:

32points

Rae North 1 year ago

If I ever get married again or LTR living together, I want seperate bedrooms. When you wanna get intimate do it, when you want to read and sleep alone, you can do that too. When you might be feeling sick and really dont want them around, own room.

16points

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#21

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner A woman with a kid. I'm bias though, met my wife when she had a two year old girl. Been married ten years this week.

ParkerGuy89 , Kelly Sikkema Report

Final score:

31points

Clown fish 1 year ago

Why what's wrong with us women with children? I'd be more worried about men who don't see or pay for their children

31points

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#22

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner A little bit of jealousy. I can deal with it since I can be a little jealous myself.

imnogoodatthisorthat:

I think it’s a normal emotion when you have genuine feelings for someone. Of course, there are acceptable and unacceptable ways of dealing with that emotion. So for me the real red flag is if someone takes it out on me or tries to control me. But in general I like for my partner to be a little (or even a lot) jealous as long as they can deal with it in a healthy way.

illustriousocelot_ , Budgeron Bach Report

Final score:

31points

Clown fish 1 year ago

Jealousy is fine as long as you talk and say why it made you feel that way but projecting your own insecurity on to someone else is BAD

17points

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#23

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner A certain type of dating history. Everyone has their own style of dating.

For example, Person A has a history of 3-4 year LTR but has never married while Person B doesn't have any relationships beyond 6 months. Person A thinks its a red flag that Person B "can't commit" when the reality is they simply end a relationship they don't see going long-term. On the other side, Person B thinks it is Person A who can't commit based on the fact they have years long relationships but don't progress.

Its all relative to how you compare the persons history to your own style of dating.

FunctionCreepy2096 , Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 Report

Final score:

30points

Lydsylou 1 year ago

The only red flag would be a person C who has had multiple short term relationship that have mostly ended in marriage and then divorce. I would find this slightly concerning if they had married so many times people they hadn't dated that long and then divorced soon after

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#24

Insecurity: Sometimes people just need to be reassured and cared for.

_Chaos_Star_ Report

Final score:

29points

Kristal 1 year ago

Particularly when they haven't had it much in life.

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#25

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Needy. I’ll take needy over uninterested.

bigtexasrob , Мария Волк Report

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27points

What we have here is a failure 1 year ago

Be careful what you wish for

25points

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#26

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Having someone that's meaner than me. My wife will always let the restaurant know when my order is wrong, also we were furniture shopping and she got an extra $800 off by asking if they could go any lower. I don't think I realized before her how costly politeness is.

ingres_violin , Gabriel Salas Report

Final score:

25points

Kel_how 1 year ago

I wouldn't call that mean, just assertive

55points

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#27

Having an alternative look. I like piercings and tattoos on a girl. I'm not a fan of the bright colored hair though.

paco1764 Report

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25points

Clown fish 1 year ago

People should rock who they are more

24points

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#28

being overly emotional!! i feel like so many people see it as weakness or whatever, but as long as it’s healthy i think it’s really great to be able to express emotions

bumblebee-44 Report

Final score:

24points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

As a diagnosed HSP, I appreciate this so much. Thank you.

8points

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#29

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Absorbed in their hobbies/their work. I love that. Go buck wild, even if it’s obsessive. Also because bruh I have a terrible rest/production ratio. I need someone who understands. LOL

Probablyawerewolf , JESHOOTS.COM Report

Final score:

23points

Duckie Measles 1 year ago

Enjoy your hobbies but not to the point where you neglect other duties and it becomes unhealthy. I used to play the sims and would have emotional breakdowns over them dying lol

4points

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#30

Temper. Because I have one too. As long as it’s not abusive - physically or emotionally- I totally get flying off the handle and yelling about s**t sometimes.

ancientastronaut2 Report

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23points

Mini grizzly 1 year ago

Yes. This!

6points

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#31

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner People who have served time in prison. It really depends on what they've done since they've gotten out. I've met some extremely sensitive and generous souls who have served time.

merpurr , Matthew Ansley Report

Final score:

11points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago (edited)

I am not a country music fan in general, but there is one singer, Jelly Roll, who was a convicted felon in his youth (armed robbery, I believe) but got his life together, is a successful musician, married with two children and is now a sort of male Dolly Parton, helping at-risk children in Tennessee and just seems like a really genuinely good person. People change, and even if your past is always a part of you it doesn't have to define you.

14points

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#32

being an older virgin. so am i.
(same goes for lack of relationship experience)

some of us don't fit society's standard of beauty, have extreme anxiety, and/or live in places that don't have a lot of options for relationships.

as a virgin in my late 20s, i would rather go through the awkward learning stages with someone else in my position than with someone who has a high body count. it feels more memorable and intimate, and eases the worry that I'm just disappointing to a more experienced partner.

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Final score:

10points

Anya Foxx 1 year ago

My ex was a virgin when we met. That was hot to me being his first and only for 15 years.

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#33

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Being friends with members of their preferred gender or exes. If there are weird vibes, then there’s weird vibes and you should follow your gut, but there’s nothing inherently wrong with it and if you think there is you need to either work through some trust issues in therapy or mature a bit.

somesweettea , Helena Lopes Report

Final score:

9points

Tamsin Far 1 year ago

Thanks. Especially if you don`t really prefer on gender it would really mean you can`t have any friends.

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#34

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner I don't mind some mild (MILD) possessiveness. In fact, I think it's kind of hot.

I blame all the Wattpad stories I consumed during my formative years.

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8points

Sanjneel 1 year ago

Any fellow Wattpad user here?

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#35

This may not be considered as much of a red flag anymore, but being into nerdy or “childish” things.

I dated a guy who was really into a competitive ten-person arcade game and I loved it. A lot of my friends warned me that was a sign of him being a man child (and in the end he kind of was a man child, albeit in other ways) but as a nerdy person myself I found it really attractive (and validating) how un-self conscious and passionate he was about it.

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8points

Kel_how 1 year ago

Being passionate about interests doesn't automatically equal irresponsible and childish.

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#36

Bisexuality in a dude partner.

This really, really shouldn't be a red flag in and of itself but this is apparently controversial in a lot of hetero women circles because there's the assumption he'll cheat (even if he's stated he's happily monogamous) or he's really just gay, or he has hiv etc etc. Or they think he's femme because he'll do xyz sex act with male partners. Some women think topping is acceptable but bottoming isn't??

Like, if you wind up in a discussion about this, there's a *lot* of weird homophobic knee jerk reactions that surface.

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#37

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Past issues with addiction. I’ve battled mine and won, so I know other people can do it too.

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Clown fish 1 year ago

As long as its upfront and not hidden

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#38

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner Talking a lot about their ex lol. I don’t consider it an automatic red flag by any means. It depends entirely on what they’re saying.

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Clown fish 1 year ago

That's my PTSD talking

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#39

Being clingy. I’m also clingy. We can be clingy together.

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7points

ShaZam 1 year ago

yeah ... I can't deal with clingy. I need my personal space to be ... well, me. I can't do that if you are constantly there ... but that's just me.

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#40

I don't have an issue if a man is close to his mother. I find it odd that no one blinks an eye when I talk to my mom everyday but it's a problem if a guy does the exact same thing. Like guys are just supposed to cast off their family the minute they get laid.

I find that to be a bigger red flag.

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Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

Agreed. And as a woman I also noticed the double standard. My mom is my best friend, why can't the same be said for a guy?

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#41

30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner A history of cheating. Not a long history, but if they cheated once, regretted it, and seem to have grown from it, I'm likely to look the other way.

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Clown fish 1 year ago

People cheat for all sorts of reasons right or wrong

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#42

Needing a little reassurance. Any opportunity to increase a partner's self-esteem or provide affirmations is my kink.

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#43

My husband has a penchant for doing “the most.”

Our son has a small spot of a rash or an insect bite: “put some hydrocortisone on it. Should we call the dr?”

Our son coughs or sneezes: “we should test him for COVID.”

We receive anything in the mail that looks remotely “official” (junk mail included): “should we call them to make sure?”

Sometimes it annoys the c**p out of me, but I do appreciate he’s thoughtful and careful. He advocated for me during my pregnancy and child birth and has learned that I have to be on the brink of death to call the dr for myself. Lol

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Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

This sounds like my grandmother 😂 and yes, her instinct once saved her father's life

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#44

I have absolutely no qualms about them loving more people than just me. It's called polyamory, but I come to find the largest majority of Reddit calls it a red flag.

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Anya Foxx 1 year ago

Poly can work but only if everyone involved can follow the rules.

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#45

Married a medical student who is a little Controlling and wants things done their way. I don’t mind it actually less on my plate.

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4points

ShaZam 1 year ago

because she wouldn't let you eat ... blink once, if you need help ... just kidding ... kind of 🙄

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#46

someone who is divorced.

my current bf and i were going thru divorces when we met and we understood each other completely. we have grown so much and i havent loved anyone like i love him. we celebrate 3 years together next month :)

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Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

Divorce doesn't mean that they are a bad person, just that they were with the wrong person/at the wrong time.

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#47

Wanting to hang out with your SO a lot as I heard that this will be seen as codependent and toxic because you won't leave each other at all...
I think it is nice to have someone you want to spend all your time with. It's like a super-duber bestfriend.

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4points

Luke Branwen 1 year ago

If your partner isn't also your best friend, what's the point

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#48

Some mildly self destructive behaviors. Not too extreme obviously, but I think sometimes being sad or contemplating their own mortality in a negative light can stem from an awareness that people are frequently cruel and destructive to the world around them, and this forces one to take an honest look at themselves.

That is to say, I have an EXCEPTIONALLY hard time trusting people who don’t get depressed or don’t seriously contemplate the negative effects humanity has on the world.

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Snorky The Pig 1 year ago (edited)

This is called being realistic, and it is normal and healthy. How else will we realize the flaws of our world and correct them for the sake of future generations and our planet?

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#49

When they aren’t so worried about what the relationship is gonna end up ‘termed’ as.

It used to bother me a bit when people didn’t know what they wanted out of a relationship but the older I get the more I understand. The difference for me now is that I’m okie with not 100% establishing what we will end up being as long as we have an understanding of what we are potentially willing to be.

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2points

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#50

Healthy germaphobia.

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Final score:

1point

Lori Simpson 1 year ago

People do not wash their hands enough and it has always freaked me out! Yes, I just saw you wipe your nose, pick your teeth, scratch your crotch a few times and no, I will not touch a thing you just touched!

1point

#51

Idk if it’s a red flag but my wife has no clue what goes on in society. And she doesn’t care at all. She only cares about what happens in her life and mine. She doesn’t bother whatsoever. Not even a little bit.

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1point

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

I respect that, but personally I'd rather not live in a bubble and see what I can do to help improve our world.

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#52

A little arrogance. It can still be attractive depending on other traits.

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-2points

Snorky The Pig 1 year ago

I respectfully disagree. "Arrogance" is a lot different than "confidence."

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A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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What do you think ?

Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago

Surprised at myself that I agreed with most of these. Takes all sorts

6points

Kevin J. Henning 1 year ago

Depending on the person(s) there are red flags and then there are RED FLAGS.

5points

Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago

Surprised at myself that I agreed with most of these. Takes all sorts

6points

Kevin J. Henning 1 year ago

Depending on the person(s) there are red flags and then there are RED FLAGS.

5points

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