30 Red Flags That People Would Ignore In Their Potential Partner

100% I've been judged for going no contact. If I have to relive what i went through to appease some sort of social engineering you believe in, I'm just going to walk away.

For quite some time, I responded to "You son of a b***h" with "So you've met her?"

That's my mom. But she has had a lot of problems and I would still help her if she called and asked.

Yeah, I fall into the later category. I'm a good person. She wasn't.

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It should be a major red flag if someone doesn't allow it! I am gay so if you follow that logic, I shouldn't have female friends because they could be a possible love interest?

As an asexual and aromatic person I had usually have friends of the opposite gender. You can not imagine how many of them I lost just because they got a jealous girlfriend who couldn't grasp that I don't want to have sex with their boyfriends and that if we spend an evening together, we just drink beer, watch a game or are playing PS...

My best friend for YEARS was a guy. He was my neighbor, babysat my kids and basically became part of the family. My kids still refer to him as "Uncle Todd".

I have never had a partner and I am 55. I am not interested in having a partner. That is not a red flag

I also think why do they keep breaking up with people? What is it about them that makes them break up with others constantly or others break up with them? It has to be something to do with them because they are the common denominator in this situation

After college, I dated no one for ten years. Then I dated for four years until I got married. The ten years were a better preparation for marriage than the four. (I've now been married for thirty-six years.)

I had only one relationship in my life and that was around 10 years ago - I don't feel love and without that a relationship is pointless (she's still my best friend though)

I didn't know that was a red flag. In my case, I've been single because I periodically get exhausted from dating and then I don't date a while. Too many people act like I'm a luddite because I don't let Mark Zuckerburg know all of my personal business.

Same. I don’t put up with my MAGA hat wearing, homophobic, Uber religious parents.

I agree. Any sane person who heard stories about my family would understand why we're no contact.

All I have left is a toxic brother and he's such an awful person, I cut all ties after we stole my Mom's funeral money.

OMG YES my parents are a******s and i want to go NC as soon as I can. Wish people would understand this.

Yes. My 2nd husband was 50 when we married (I was late 40s), and he'd never been married or in a long-term relationship. He was always afraid of being committed, I think. We've always had a "The museum is closed" attitude about our lives until then. We celebrate our 25th in a few weeks, still going strong. Quirky people have to find compatible (or complementing) quirks to be with.

Immediately after my 3rd husband passed away, I was told to "jump back in the saddle again"" and "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone" ...No Thank You. I'm not that kind of girl that jumps from one relationship into another. Call me prudish. Idc. I've some serious trust issues. Each of my husbands had cheated on me, stole from me (give me some $$/jewelry only to take it back) and gaslit the f*ck out of me. Nah, I'm good. However, if there's a guy out there who's willing to listen to me, be patient with me, be my friend like, actually hang out and do things together as my friend, it could be beneficial for him. But I doubt it.

We met at 36M and 32F, both without having any significant story before...

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Low body count is sexy

as long as you are not trying to "fix her". Helping her is one thing ... looking for a project is another thing.

Do you have any brothers?

Awwww

A goof is a great opportunity to just laugh at the situation. Laughing can heal so much.

Everyone has been or will be damaged goods at some point in their lives so it's not a red flag to be, unfortunately, normal

A person's number of previous sex partners shouldn't matter as much as their sexual behaviour. If the person takes good care of themselves and uses safer sex methods in addition to regularly getting tested, I would have no qualms dating them.

Body count? Are we talking sex or...? Because my chest freezer is getting kinda full.

A person’s personality matters more than a person’s past.

Or she just got tired of eff boys

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No thanks. High body count worries me about the chance of an STI

I am a red flag since I don't want Mark Zuckerburg knowing my personal business. Still, it's weird that some people act like you're a luddite who can only be reached by the Pony Express if you don't have Facebook or Instagram. I have a smart phone, so call/text me.

No social media? Good. Means you're not a socially inept narcissist who feels compelled to share the mundane details of your average existence in a desperate bid to validate your self worth by generating "likes". Green flag. Let's go on a date.

A close friend of mine went through a really difficult phase in her life but kept from all but the people closest to her. Despite this, she constantly posted on social media about how wonderful her life was. I never really understood until a few years ago - say it often enough (and have people who don't know better tell you how lucky you are) - either you'll believe it yourself or it will become true. My friend's better now, thankfully. Needless to say, I absolutely don't think having no social media is a red flag.

I'd be more impressed by someone without social media (as long as BP doesn't count)

It's certainly the opposite for me now. My ex was quite into Instagram. Guess who had to make the pictures for her...

I'm no type A... more a type ZZZ. I work to afford to live the way I do: I have no ambition to work myself to death.

I agree. Being “proud of the hustle” to me is a horribly misguided stance in life and a hallmark of an a*****e

I only worked part time & my husband was fine with that. I made enough money to cover my own expenses and groceries & we pretty much split everything else.

If they're not ambitious in their career or their life or their relationships or in their something, that's a huge red flag. That has boring and, potentially, judgmental or weighing you down written all over it.

Lol show me someone who isn't a bit mad and I'll show you a lier. As long as they know when to get medical help for it then it's fine

The thing is, I kind of get it. Up until even a few years ago, having mental health issues were a red flag, because seeking treatment for them would be a red flag personally, and for the whole family. It's not that long ago that families of people with mental health issues would hush out the whole situation and treat it as a blemish to the whole family and something to hide. That ofc extends to how people that have the mental issues see themselves, and used to consider it a personal weakness and failure to seek help. With that in mind, it used to be a red flag for the dating world, because odds were that you'd find someone with issues for which they didn't actively do something about, and it could potentially affect the relationship negatively. But now we live in a world where mental health is openly discussed, and the shame that used to accompany the issue is slowly lifted.