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Tumblr Users Explain Why It Is Important To Take Care Of Men’s Emotional Needs And It Will Encourage You To Compliment Men More
It’s not the first time that we’ve touched upon the problem of toxic masculinity and how widespread it is. It’s a common concept that half of the world’s population is supposed to ‘man up’ and hide away their emotions to be perceived as strong and serious. A big chunk of our society paints a man that steps outside of the unwritten rules as ‘weak’ or ‘feminine’ and that not only feeds into the problem of misogyny, but also creates an environment where boys and men aren’t allowed to deal with their emotions. They aren’t supposed to want or ask for care and soft things, going as far as men being terrified of crying. One Tumblr user, seeing this flaw in our culture, decided to share how she treats her boyfriend and how good it is to let men be human beings and express their emotions and needs. People quickly joined in with their own experiences as well as diving into the topic of toxic masculinity and analyzing how it affects the society, as well as individuals. Scroll down below to read what they had to say, and don’t forget to tell us what you think!
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One woman on Tumblr shared how she takes care of her boyfriend’s emotional needs and people quickly joined in with their own stories
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People went on to discuss how and why toxic masculinity affects lives and how to prevent it
Image credits: Jemma Harwood
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Enuya 7 years ago (edited)
I love this post. This is one of the areas where men are in worse situation than women. They DO need and like compliments but they cannot (or so they think) expect and required it. When woman says: "Tell me how much you love me", nobody thinks this is a big deal. When man says something like this, people find him unmanly and/or forcing. I love to say my male friends compliments,partially because I see how important it is for them. They also feel insecure, ugly or unloved, these feelings are not reserved for women.
Grumble O'Pug 7 years ago
I will get downvoted to hell, but basically feminism isn't just about women, it's been about men freeing up emotion and the stringent emotional roll they were given in the stultifying mid-century. It's too bad fear-encrusted people have turned it into an epithet.
stacyh 7 years ago
That's the entire point of feminism as far as I've ever known. So no down votes for you.
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Saints of Sins 7 years ago
Not only men are told this, but girls are too. I get bullied and harassed, well I did when I was a lot younger for showing ANY feeling. Then in 6th grade I showed none and I was called heartless. 7th grade my emotions came and I was bullied servely for it again. 8th grade I committed an act of suicide (which clearly failed), in 9th grade I started to get little help, but I had no damn shoulder to lean on. My boyfriend abused my just like my family does. 10th grade I ran away, then the cops found me in poor conditions. 12th grade, here I am. No support. I am a girl, no friends, no support. No boyfriend because none like me, or were true to me. Not only boys need love and comfort, but girls do as well. I suffer anxiety, severe depression, and more from it.
Sol Connor 7 years ago
I know I can't help you thousands of miles away but I wanted to offer you hope... My school days were like that. I tried to end it all at 15, 16 and 21. I had no friends and got abuse at home. At the time that was all there was and I could see no escape. But life is more than school. Life will be big and bold and beautiful and exciting and just incredible, if you can keep going. I had made friends and travelled and moved away from home and had flings with men and had a crazy amount of fun but at 28 I had broken up woth my boyfriend, was practically homeless, jobless and depressed. At 29 I was married, pregnant, new home and a manager. Life is crazy, you never know what's arpund the corner. I love my life. I love myself. I'm 35 now. Keep going. You're worth it xxx
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leeroy jenkins 7 years ago (edited)
as a guy i can agree with this. we act like we dont want the compliments and hugs cause thats what society has told us to be like. i dont listen to society as much but times not having anyone to have this kind of relationship with just forces that upon you. for me personally when a girl hugs me out of nowhere i kinda curl up cause i dont know why they do it but inside feel happy cause someone cared enough to come up to me and do that. also on that note is also the way people look at you, im looked at at my school as the teen who hates conversations and doesnt want anything emotional (ive been called a robot before), but thats honestly the complete opposite but its how i act and what i do.
Christine M Quigley 7 years ago
I think that's why there are so many angry med right now. They don't get, or never got, the emotional attention they need. All humans need to feel loved and valued.
Ethan Slusser 7 years ago
We all have an emotional side and a wish to be happy. We always just assume that boys like action figures and girls love dolls. When I was younger, I liked playing the LEGO Friends with my sister. Heck, we spent a whole summer earning money just to get it. We need to teach boys that you can like Conan the Barbarian and Warrior Xenia princess. No one doesn’t have emotions, that’s mainly why we debate things. I like rom coms, cute things, cuddles and all sorts of other things considered ‘girl stuff’. I love this post because, it means that more people will learn not to see toxic masculinity as the only way of being a man.
Patty cake ;3 7 years ago
This is sweet, all this people are so caring that it makes me melt. :)
Enuya 7 years ago (edited)
I love this post. This is one of the areas where men are in worse situation than women. They DO need and like compliments but they cannot (or so they think) expect and required it. When woman says: "Tell me how much you love me", nobody thinks this is a big deal. When man says something like this, people find him unmanly and/or forcing. I love to say my male friends compliments,partially because I see how important it is for them. They also feel insecure, ugly or unloved, these feelings are not reserved for women.
Grumble O'Pug 7 years ago
I will get downvoted to hell, but basically feminism isn't just about women, it's been about men freeing up emotion and the stringent emotional roll they were given in the stultifying mid-century. It's too bad fear-encrusted people have turned it into an epithet.
stacyh 7 years ago
That's the entire point of feminism as far as I've ever known. So no down votes for you.
Load More Replies... Saints of Sins 7 years ago
Not only men are told this, but girls are too. I get bullied and harassed, well I did when I was a lot younger for showing ANY feeling. Then in 6th grade I showed none and I was called heartless. 7th grade my emotions came and I was bullied servely for it again. 8th grade I committed an act of suicide (which clearly failed), in 9th grade I started to get little help, but I had no damn shoulder to lean on. My boyfriend abused my just like my family does. 10th grade I ran away, then the cops found me in poor conditions. 12th grade, here I am. No support. I am a girl, no friends, no support. No boyfriend because none like me, or were true to me. Not only boys need love and comfort, but girls do as well. I suffer anxiety, severe depression, and more from it.
Sol Connor 7 years ago
I know I can't help you thousands of miles away but I wanted to offer you hope... My school days were like that. I tried to end it all at 15, 16 and 21. I had no friends and got abuse at home. At the time that was all there was and I could see no escape. But life is more than school. Life will be big and bold and beautiful and exciting and just incredible, if you can keep going. I had made friends and travelled and moved away from home and had flings with men and had a crazy amount of fun but at 28 I had broken up woth my boyfriend, was practically homeless, jobless and depressed. At 29 I was married, pregnant, new home and a manager. Life is crazy, you never know what's arpund the corner. I love my life. I love myself. I'm 35 now. Keep going. You're worth it xxx
Load More Replies... leeroy jenkins 7 years ago (edited)
as a guy i can agree with this. we act like we dont want the compliments and hugs cause thats what society has told us to be like. i dont listen to society as much but times not having anyone to have this kind of relationship with just forces that upon you. for me personally when a girl hugs me out of nowhere i kinda curl up cause i dont know why they do it but inside feel happy cause someone cared enough to come up to me and do that. also on that note is also the way people look at you, im looked at at my school as the teen who hates conversations and doesnt want anything emotional (ive been called a robot before), but thats honestly the complete opposite but its how i act and what i do.
Christine M Quigley 7 years ago
I think that's why there are so many angry med right now. They don't get, or never got, the emotional attention they need. All humans need to feel loved and valued.
Ethan Slusser 7 years ago
We all have an emotional side and a wish to be happy. We always just assume that boys like action figures and girls love dolls. When I was younger, I liked playing the LEGO Friends with my sister. Heck, we spent a whole summer earning money just to get it. We need to teach boys that you can like Conan the Barbarian and Warrior Xenia princess. No one doesn’t have emotions, that’s mainly why we debate things. I like rom coms, cute things, cuddles and all sorts of other things considered ‘girl stuff’. I love this post because, it means that more people will learn not to see toxic masculinity as the only way of being a man.
Patty cake ;3 7 years ago
This is sweet, all this people are so caring that it makes me melt. :)
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