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Bisexual 12-Year-Old Receives Support From A Guy He Least Expected, Remembers It For The Rest Of His Life
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Bisexual 12-Year-Old Receives Support From A Guy He Least Expected, Remembers It For The Rest Of His Life

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Coming out is tough. Coming out as a 12-year-old is social suicide. Liberating social suicide. When Rafi D’Angelo made his bisexuality public, the world turned against him and he didn’t have anyone by his side. It got so bad, Rafi even attempted suicide.

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Bisexual 12-Year-Old Receives Support From A Guy He Least Expected, Remembers It For The Rest Of His Life

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But right then, during one of the worst periods of his life, the boy made an unlikely ally who gave him the validation and support he so desperately needed. Now, many years later, Rafi publicly thanked the guy on Twitter and his emotional rollercoaster ride of a thread went viral.

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If you’re someone who’s thinking about coming out, just remember, everyone should do it in their own time. You may feel under pressure to tell those close to you that you are lesbian, gay, or bisexual before you are ready. But according to Ditch The Label, you don’t have to. There are no obligations. Coming out is just about you. No one else. If you start to think about pleasing others, you might lose sight of what is really important – your happiness on your own terms.

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And even though you may feel ready to come out, you may not feel you fit any particular “label.” Using terms like lesbian, gay, and bisexual is absolutely fine but there’s no need to identify as anything. But if you decide to do so, reading about how other people came out might give you that last bit of confidence to say the words that you need to say. RUComingOut is just one website with plenty of real-life stories as well as interviews from celebrities. Most people who come out go through the same anxieties and they experience very similar fears, so hearing how things turned out for others might be useful for you as well.

And when you are ready to come out, you don’t have to tell everyone straight away. Start by choosing one person who you trust more than anyone else – a friend, a sibling, a parent/guardian, or a teacher. Open up to that one person and take it from there. If you do it and things seem a thousand times easier, you’ll know you’re on the right track. Also, you’ll have someone you can talk to and ask for advice on how to come out to others.

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Carol Emory
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not gay, but was the victim of an abusive mother at home and endless bullying at school and I was ready to pack it in when I was 15. Then a girl had moved into the area from Kansas. Unlike the other students, she liked me for me. She laughed at my jokes, let me hang out at her house, and picked me up at home so I didn't have to endure the abuses on the bus. Best part about it was, her father had some respect because he was boss to many of the other students parents. My bullies backed off and I was able to get through the majority of the rest of high school unscathed. I didn't tell her until 25 years later that she saved my life. She's my BFF and always will be. It just takes one person to save a life.

空の夢
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wish the best for both of you and hope every single person in this world gets to have someone like your best friend ❤

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Agnes Jekyll
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, that is such a powerful story...And so incredibly heartbreaking that a 12-year-old would be ready to die because he is different.

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Carol Emory
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not gay, but was the victim of an abusive mother at home and endless bullying at school and I was ready to pack it in when I was 15. Then a girl had moved into the area from Kansas. Unlike the other students, she liked me for me. She laughed at my jokes, let me hang out at her house, and picked me up at home so I didn't have to endure the abuses on the bus. Best part about it was, her father had some respect because he was boss to many of the other students parents. My bullies backed off and I was able to get through the majority of the rest of high school unscathed. I didn't tell her until 25 years later that she saved my life. She's my BFF and always will be. It just takes one person to save a life.

空の夢
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wish the best for both of you and hope every single person in this world gets to have someone like your best friend ❤

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Agnes Jekyll
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, that is such a powerful story...And so incredibly heartbreaking that a 12-year-old would be ready to die because he is different.

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