Person Snaps At A Stranger Who Says They Shouldn’t Be Smoking, Asks If They’re A Jerk
Interview With AuthorThousands of strangers around the world cross paths every day. Usually, though, everyone’s going about their business and it doesn’t lead to somewhat significant encounters. Even in the times of pandemic, when people are mostly staying home, grocery shopping has become one of those rare luxuries to be among others browsing through the aisles.
But on some occasions, running into strangers can turn sour. At least this is what happened to one Reddit user who was approached in a grocery store line while picking up a pack of cigarettes for their grandpa. “The guy behind me in line, middle-aged dude, said, ‘you’re so young, you shouldn’t be smoking.’”
Convinced that this was none of the guy’s business, and since he repeated the schooling again, the redditor clapped back. Read the incident in full right below that divided people online, who strived to answer the key question: “AITA for telling a guy behind me in the grocery store line to mind his friggin business?” Share what you think in the comments!
This person shared an incident they had while grocery shopping where they were told they shouldn’t smoke by a random stranger
To find out more about the incident, Bored Panda reached out to the person who snapped at a stranger for being told they shouldn’t smoke. “I was initially annoyed because I don’t like it when strangers make small talk with me at the grocery store,” the author of “AITA for telling a guy behind me in the grocery store line to mind his friggin business?”, who preferred staying anonymous, explained.
It turns out, the person had bought cigarettes for their grandpa before, but this was the only time someone had ever commented on them. “I’ve gotten a couple dirty looks, but I just ignore those.”
At this point, the person who was there to pick up cigarettes for their grandpa had enough and clapped back
When asked whether they think it was the right reaction, the person clarified, “I don’t think I was a jerk, I just wasn’t as nice as I could have been. I think to be a jerk, you have to do something a little worse than that.”
In the end, the person said that they’d probably do the same if a stranger tried to school them. “I would tell them to shut up, as demonstrated by my post.”
The people were divided over whether the author of the post was a jerk for cursing at a stranger or not
In our hectic lives, we are often confronted with strangers who do (or say) something totally discomforting, or plain annoying. It’s incredible to think how much our mood depends on such seemingly meaningless encounters, and how fast our day can turn from hero to zero in a moment.
It’s no secret that when we get frustrated, most of the time, we jump to dark conclusions quickly. We may even picture ourselves as a target of mockery and harm, and it may make our blood boil. But sometimes an adequate complaint emerges from the assumption we carry in our heads before we say something back to the frustrating stranger.
What if we believe that the irritating person is not deliberately trying to irritate us, and doesn’t have an evil plan to prevent us from feeling happy? What if the stranger wasn’t even thinking about us at all, and just uttered something that was on the tip of their tongue?
This assumption may help you to calm your nerves down and make sure the encounter you have doesn’t escalate into an inadequate situation. After all, it’s yourself whom you should care about, and whatever random strangers the world may bring us, we should all just try to be a little more sure of ourselves.
In case anyone is wondering, as a reformed Reddit addict I can tell you that YTA = you're the asshole, NTA = not the asshole and ESH = everyone sucks here.
Upvote much. Languages do change over time, but they never changed this quick in history.
Load More Replies...As an ex-smoker I can tell you that remarks from other people about quitting do not help at all. It's not like smokers don't know the risks and need to be reminded of them, not by strangers and not by friends either. It has the absolute opposite effect actually. I quit because I got really sick (pneumonia) and had an epiphany about not really helping myself get better by continuing smoking. In any case, I'd let a 92 year smoke their ciggies too, if it makes them happy.
I'm a smoker. When outside having a smoke and some random person tells me I shouldn't smoke, I always say, "you shouldn't talk to strangers".
Was on my smoke break at work, in an area that is generally out of the way of the public, but still very visible, I'm minding my own business, when a couple, possibly late 40's early 50's walks past, and the man, loud enough for me to hear, says, 'People actually still smoke?' It was clearly meant to be condescending and it pissed me off, he was not close enough to be affected by second-hand smoke, I never asked his opinion and if he wanted to make a comment, he could have done so quietly. Self-righteous people like that really should learn to keep their comments to themselves, because if someone mentions something to them that they don't like, they tend to throw tantrums.
Load More Replies...In case anyone is wondering, as a reformed Reddit addict I can tell you that YTA = you're the asshole, NTA = not the asshole and ESH = everyone sucks here.
Upvote much. Languages do change over time, but they never changed this quick in history.
Load More Replies...As an ex-smoker I can tell you that remarks from other people about quitting do not help at all. It's not like smokers don't know the risks and need to be reminded of them, not by strangers and not by friends either. It has the absolute opposite effect actually. I quit because I got really sick (pneumonia) and had an epiphany about not really helping myself get better by continuing smoking. In any case, I'd let a 92 year smoke their ciggies too, if it makes them happy.
I'm a smoker. When outside having a smoke and some random person tells me I shouldn't smoke, I always say, "you shouldn't talk to strangers".
Was on my smoke break at work, in an area that is generally out of the way of the public, but still very visible, I'm minding my own business, when a couple, possibly late 40's early 50's walks past, and the man, loud enough for me to hear, says, 'People actually still smoke?' It was clearly meant to be condescending and it pissed me off, he was not close enough to be affected by second-hand smoke, I never asked his opinion and if he wanted to make a comment, he could have done so quietly. Self-righteous people like that really should learn to keep their comments to themselves, because if someone mentions something to them that they don't like, they tend to throw tantrums.
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